A 17-year-old has a sister from hell and wasn’t sure if she was wrong “for making my parents choose between my sister going to jail or replacing my car with their vacation money” after said sister crashed her car.
Redditor u/Spirited_Boat_6380, said 17-year-old, took to Reddit to get a gauge on whether or not her reaction was oversized.
OP explains that her older sister came along when her parents were very young and she has a lot of problems.
I (f17) live with my parents. I have an older sister (29) that they had when they were super young. Like I think my mom was 19 and my dad was 18.
They did not do a great job with her and she has a lot of problems. She is chronically unemployed and she is a thief.
The sister has two kids who are okay, but they’re pretty spoiled in OP’s opinion. They apparently live with OP and her parents because the sister’s boyfriend doesn’t want them around. God, these poor kids.
She has two kids that are okay. They live with us as well because her boyfriend didn’t want them around. I like the kids but they are spoiled little brats my parents dote on to make up for being shitty parents to their mom.
OP and the kids had words about them going into her room after her parents refused to allow a lock on her door. Things were okay.
My parents won’t let me put a lock on my door because it is their house and they don’t want that. No problem. I talked to the kids and explained about what would happen if they came into my room without permission. We have an understanding.
OP’s sister needed housing after a breakup and she came to live with OP and her parents; OP wanted a lock again: no dice.
Well my sister broke up with her boyfriend and she needed a place to stay. I begged my parents not to let her stay with us. They declined. So I begged again for a lock for my door. No dice.
I have to go to school so I can’t guard my stuff at all times. When I came home on Friday I found my car absolutely trashed and the side of it destroyed.
When OP came home from school, her car was wrecked. Apparently her sister had stolen her car and crashed into a tree.
My sister had gone into my room, found my spare key and taken my car. Then lost control on the ice after a day of eating crap and tossing fast food wrappers everywhere. She sideswiped a tree.
OP told her parents that her sister has to pay for the damage, but her parents said that OP’s sister has no money. OP went to her grandparents.
When I saw my car I was livid. I told my parents that I expected her to pay to fix it. They said she didn’t have any money. So I said that I would call my grandparents. They had helped me get the car and insurance.
Insurance would cover the damage but her grandfather told OP that she would need to file a police report (…not strictly true). OP also said she would not tell insurance that her sister had permission, would may mean stolen car charges.
After talking with my grandfather I came back to talk to my parents. I said that the insurance would cover fixing or replacing my car depending on the damage. But that I would have to file a police report. And that my sister would probably be charged for stealing my car. They begged me to tell insurance that she had permission. I said nope.
Instead, her parents are just replacing OP’s car. That means they won’t have the cash to take OP and her nieces to Disney World. Everyone is upset with OP and she pointed out a lock would’ve been cheaper.
So rather than go through insurance they are replacing my car. But they are using money that they had set aside to take me and my nieces to Orlando next summer for my graduation. It’s fine. I can do without seeing Disney World again. But my parents, sister, and nieces are upset with me and saying that I’m an asshole for denying my nieces the opportunity to go on a vacation that they have never had.
I just asked them if a lock for my door would have been cheaper.
AITA?
Surprise! Her parents gave OP a deadbolt and a key.
EDIT
Hey. I just got home from school. There is a deadbolt on my bedroom door. And my mom gave me a key. She says that she is keeping the other one for emergency. I agreed as long as it was only for emergencies.
Reddit was quick to note that OP was not an asshole.
