Patricia Grisafi
Guess what? The world is made up of people who have all sorts of different body types.
And you know what else? Who cares. Wear what you want!
Unfortunately, girls and women tend to be called out for wearing clothes that look “too provocative” just because they are curvy.
This happens at schools, in the workplace, and at home.
On Reddit, a pair of sisters who are similar in age but different when it comes to their body types, decided to show their body-shaming mother that her behavior is hypocritical.
And yikes, this mother sounds like a piece of work.
“My mom is very different with my sister (16) and me (15F). My sister is a DD and has curves and a butt and I’m a freaking rectangle and look like a 10-year-old boy. Whenever my sister wears a v neck or low-cut shirt or shorts that don’t go down to her fingertips our mom calls her a whore and trashy and says that she needs to start respecting herself and not keep trying to get boy’s attention,” the OP writes.
“I can wear whatever the hell I want and she won’t give a damn. I bought a crop top that was barely longer than my bra and a skirt that barely covered my ass and my mom complimented my outfit. Then my sister walked out in shorts and a tee shirt and my mom called her a slut.”
The OP and her sister decided to go shopping for some summer clothes since the weather is getting warmer. They bought the exact same outfit (cropped short sleeve shirt and black shorts) and then both agreed to wear them the next day to see how their mother would react.
“This morning we walked out of our rooms and my mom complimented my outfit and said that I look cute and suggested a makeup look that I do a lot to match it. Then she looked at my sister and called her a slut and said nobody’s going to respect her if she keeps showing off her body. My sister pointed out that I was wearing the same outfit and my mom said ‘that can’t be possible. Hers is so much less trashy’ so my sister and I pulled out the receipts that showed that they were the same shirt and shorts. My mom stormed off and won’t talk to us and our dad thinks she deserved it but we should apologize to keep the peace so we wanted to know if we were being a**holes.”
What did Redditors think of the situation?
“Absolutely NTA and you’re legends. Body type double standards are real and I hope your mom is mature enough to learn her lesson. Sadly I get the impression from the silent treatment that she’s childish in general, maybe a bit emotionally manipulative? And it’s very uncool of your dad to put pressure on you to accept it. I wonder if anything on r/raisedbynarcissists would resonate with you. You deserve respect no matter what you look or dress like. And you can’t tell anything about someone’s sex life by their body shape or clothes unless they’re literally flagging in some way. Maybe not even then. For that matter, some people are ‘sluts’ because they like to be and that’s okay, and some people are sex workers and that’s also okay. And those people can dress however they want to. The act of wearing clothing – that doesn’t have, like, hate speech or symbols on it – is basically morally neutral,” said KrisUgino.
“Let me get this straight…your mom is trying to keep your sister safe from sexual harassment…by sexually harassing her? Not to mention, this is a massive double standard. Your 16YO sister has a right to be comfortable, and if your mom wants to pretend that she’s trying to communicate when she isn’t, that sounds like mom’s problem. And your dads attitude is ‘just appease the tyrant?’ WTF,” observed 0xEmmy.
“Lots of comments about mom. Does anyone else want to join me in pointing out that dad is a shitty enabler of her behavior? OP if you apologize like you did something wrong, your mom isn’t going to learn the lesson. Hold your ground, or be prepared for mom to feel vindicated, and then emboldened as a result,” advised HalfGayHouse.
“NTA this will be very damaging to your poor sister’s self esteem. Someone needs to really shake sense into your mom, things like this can cut through emotional and mental health so fast and difficult to repair. Your dad also needs to grow a pair and backup his kids,” said CleoCarson.
“Sexualizing developed teens is such an issue. I hit puberty early and hard. It was so alienating to have to wear sports bras over my swimsuits at school functions just because I had a bigger bust,” said pure_trash.
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