Patricia Grisafi
Servers deserve to be tipped, full stop. It’s a hard job, it’s human to make a mistake, and everybody has bad days. So, if you’re ever out with someone and they either refuse to tip or give a stingy tip, it’s probably a good indicator that they’re not someone you want to get to know further.
Take this story from one Redditor. She was on a first date, and her date decided to play a bizarre “game” with the waitress. I mean, it’s pretty awful.
“I met a guy on a dating app, we hit it off and we arranged for our first date. Things were going well, we had sat down and had started some small chat. Our waitress comes over asking us what we want to order. I say what I want and gesture to him so he can order. He orders and then pulls what I think is about 15 dollars on the table. He says, ‘This is your tip. Every time you mess up, I take some away,'” the OP writes.
“The waitress looked nervous immediately. I’m sitting there a bit shocked, but mostly embarrassed because I wasn’t expecting this. She must have been new as well, because she did spill some drinks on our table that night, gave us the wrong food, and overall just seemed lost. He took away 13 dollars.”
“I asked him why he thought doing tips this way was a good idea. He said it was the best way to ensure ‘good service.’ When I disagreed he said, ‘Cant always be nice to these people, it’s not a respectable job.'”
“I decided then that I wanted nothing to do with him, and called the waitress over to get the bill. I slapped a 20 dollar bill in her hand and got up to pay for my own meal. Later that night he had demanded to know why I had given her the tip despite her poor service and I told him it’s because he decided to treat her livelihood like it was a game. He said because of me she’ll never improve her service and that I’m just a people pleaser. I blocked him, but I’ve wondered ever since if that was really the right thing to do.”
For sure it was! Buh bye, a**hole!
“NTA – so he made her nervous, which likely made her service worse. Then, then he has the absolute gal to say, ‘Can’t always be nice to these people, it’s not a respectable job.’ What??? He is using the service she provides and yet insulting her and all the people who share the same job. Jesus above,” said JudgeJed100.
“If it’s not a respectable job why did he demand pristine service? These people have to work during an on going pandemic to people who are even more unhinged lately. OP NTA. anyone that treats servers like this don’t deserve your time and energy. This guy showed you who he was. You have to believe him,” explained likecommentsurvive.
“NTA. That kind of ‘game’ is only played by rude folk who have no respect for those they deem ‘below’ them. That poor waitstaff didn’t deserve to be treated like trash because of her job, because she was new, because she’s human and not a perfectly functioning robot. Kindness is free,” stated synesthesiah.
“If I was a server and someone pulled this shit with me I’d probably give them bad service on purpose for being a dickhead. $15 isn’t even a great tip. NTA, obviously,” said RenDabs.
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