People Are Sharing Cooking-Related Red Flags They’ve Seen In Relationships (18 Pics)

There was a letter to an advice column years ago, from a woman convinced her mother-in-law was slightly poisoning her every time they went to her house for dinner.

After every meal, she grew violently ill and threw up/had diarrhea.
When she told her husband her suspicion he said she was crazy. His mother was a saint who adored her and would die before hurting her.

The advice columnist urged the wife to swap her plate with her husband’s during the next dinner. The woman wrote back saying she followed the advice and it was her husband who became violently ill after the meal.

When she told him what she’d done she said he looked at her with such loathing she realized he’d suspected what his mom was doing all along but, instead of standing up for her, he decided to gaslight her about her suspicions to avoid upsetting his mom.

Talk about your red flags.

My ex thought that “browning” ground meat meant leaving it in the fridge til it turned brown.

When they put your best knives in the dishwasher.

Being a full-grown adult that waits to be cooked for. Knowing full well, his spouse might also be working full-time. But they won’t lift a finger to grab dinner on the way home or if already home toss something in the microwave.

Not having any spices at all in your kitchen.

I once decided to cook for a girl I was dating. It was pretty fresh at the time, the third time I had seen her. I thought it might be nice to cook, have a glass of wine and chat, etc. as you do. While I was cooking she told me to stop talking so much and hurry up because she was hungry in a rude, annoyed tone. That turned me off to the point I didn’t see her again after that night!

I knew a guy who dropped his $1 bottle of spaghetti sauce, jar broke in the bag. He goes and makes spaghetti…. With sauce. We ask if this is the same sauce…. Yup! He just pulled the chunks of glass out of it 😳. I do not eat that spaghetti or anything he cooked after that

My ex-wife wanted to make meatloaf when we were first married. I was like cool I love meatloaf. So she pulled this meatloaf out of the oven when I got home. It was a slightly charred sad looking meatball floating in grease. She was apologetic about it but I didn’t say shit about it. I have never complained about her cooking anything. I made meatloaf a few weeks later and she loved it and wanted to know what I put in it. I told her and asked her how she makes meatloaf. She said you take some meat and put it in a pan. No egg, salt, pepper, or ketchup. Just meat. I was like yep this is going to take some work. Turns out she was overconfident about everything and just winged it.

Saying they are allergic to some ingredients but later admit they “just don’t like the texture.”

I get the texture thing, I hate mushy slimy myself. But ffs don’t pull the “I am allergic to mushrooms/peas/onions/tomatoes” thing.

Not clicking the tongs before using them.

When they don’t know how to cook, refuse to cook, but are super picky when you cook for them. Nope nope nope

Medium rare chicken

If they are purposefully cooking things that their partner does not like or worse, that they are allergic to.

Refuses to take into account your partner’s preferences

People who won’t eat leftovers

Touching the oven when I’m cooking. Had a friend “fix” the oven while I was reverse searing ribeyes a few years back so they’d cook faster. Do you know what happens to a ribeye when you leave it in the oven at 375 for an hour?

She did the same to a rack of ribs on another occasion. Saw that the grill was set to low and thought “That can’t be right.” Jacked it up to high without telling anybody, and treated us to a nice rack of charcoal chips for dinner.

I have a roommate who puts applesauce on everything he eats. So yeah that’s probably it.

Washes pans with ice cold water as “hot water hurts my hands”. Maybe try warm water and oh great, everything is coated in a thin film of fucking GREASE.

Thanks for the feedback, but you’re all wrong, warm water is superior to cold.

Also, don’t be under the illusion I haven’t always been using dish soap.