Patricia Grisafi
It is a lot of fun but also stressful to come up with your child’s name.
I mean, this is the name that they will probably carry around for the rest of their lives. There’s so much to be anxious about—will the kid get made fun of, will the name sound weird with the last name, is the name too trendy, is it too obscure?
In an ideal world, we should always choose what we want, but sometimes that isn’t possible.
One Redditor has a boyfriend who is obsessed with the Twilight movies and wants to name their daughter after one of the characters—much to the OP’s absolute disgust.
“My boyfriend and I are both 18, and 35w pregnant with our daughter. Since the day I found out we were having a girl he was hell bent on naming her Renesmae, absolutely refuses to compromise. He’s a massive Twilight fan, I personally hate it and would much rather that we don’t name our baby after a fictional character.”
“It kinda hit boiling point last night, for weeks I’ve been telling him we are coming up with something else because I’m not naming my child that. I went onto Instagram where he had posted a picture of us and said in the caption ‘I can’t wait to meet you Renesmae.'”
The OP got furious and told her boyfriend to delete it or change the caption. He refused, saying that they had to stick with it because now it was public. “I said. ‘I haven’t f**king agreed to naming our daughter after some stupid made up character from the worst books ever f**king made. Delete the post now or get the f**k out of my house.'”
“He left to spend the night at a friends and my parents who heard the argument said I should just let him name our daughter that, saying it probably means a lot to him and that I’m being an unreasonable a**hole.”
What do Redditors think?
“NTA baby names fall into the ‘two yeses, one no’ category. He absolutely sucks for the post and trying to use that as leverage to get his way. Be careful about someone who uses such a tactic. Your parents also suck for telling you to just go along with the name. At the hospital (presuming you’re giving birth in one) I would tell the nurses not to let him sign the birth certificate without you,” said nonanonaye.
“Your child is not a billboard for your bf’s fandom. She is a person who has to live with ramifications of your decisions even if she chooses to legally change her name once she’s able to. In other words, that child will be bullied and that will cause trauma. I really recommend a list of names that are hard to be teased over and easy for you to pronounce,” suggested 0neFishTwoFish.
“If he’s getting this bent out of shape over figuring out a name you both can agree on, then I worry about his general preparedness for parenthood. Your parents taking his side is concerning. He’s wrong, you’re right. Find a name you both can agree on. If he digs his heels in and says it’s Renesmae or nothing, then effectively, he’s waiving his right to a say…Also, just for clarity, the Twilight’s character’s name is Renesmee. If it’s him misspelling it, then how big a fan could he be,” noted Dszquphsbnt.
“Naming a child a made up name that only exists in a fictional universe is one thing. Choosing a name from a part of pop-culture that did not hold up well at all barely a decade later is taking things to a whole new level. Even the kids named Kylo are going to be dunking on OP’s daughter if she allows this name,” said TogarSucks.
“NTA and this is a huge warning sign. If he refuses to let you have a say in YOUR OWN BABIES NAME, how controlling is he going to be of you when you’re raising a child together? You’re 18 so yes you are an adult, and judging from what you’ve posted you’re fairly mature, but is this guy seriously the one you want to spend your entire life with? He sounds like a 4 year old. Anyways, NTA and he needs to get a grip. It’s your baby too, not just his. When you go into labour, make sure you inform everyone that he is not allowed to name the child in the event that you fall unconscious or are taken away for any kind of emergency treatment, incase he tries to pull something behind your back,” said throwawayay551.
What do you think the OP should do?
Featured image: Netflix
