Emily Duprie
A man recently went viral on the subreddit “Am I The A-hole?” after his 23 year old adult child decided to make TikTok’s looking for sympathy after being told she wouldn’t have her vacation paid for.
OP (u/Minute-Common-6625) says he has two daughters on the opposite side of the spectrum. One is a little younger and very successful in all aspects, while the other has had a rough run of the mill. After deciding to take the younger on a vacation to reward her for all her hard work, he told the oldest, and more “troubled” daughter that she could come if she paid her way.
The eldest agreed to these terms, until the time came to book the flights and she still hadn’t paid her part. Sticking to his word, OP told her he wasn’t going to get her a ticket, and what ensued afterwards was pure chaos.
Read the story in full below, along with some of the top comments. Let us know what you think of the situation!
OP asks: “AITA for refusing to pay for my daughter’s plane ticket but paying for my youngest daughter who this vacation is dedicated to?”
Hello all, I have 2 daughters named Kate (23F) and Alexa (16F). For starters Kate lives with me rent free and bill free. She used to live with her mother full time but her mom kicked her out at 18. I don’t blame her mother though. Kate was absolutely terrible in her teenager years. She was rude, disrespectful and would steal,smoke, skip class,etc. Kate barely finished high school and was put in a continuation school. Since this though Kate is doing a lot better, she didn’t want to go to college but she works at a fast food restaurant and is saving up for her own apartment.
The two sisters are polar opposites…
Alexa on the other hand is the opposite, she’s amazing in school, works, volunteers and still has time to do sports and clubs. I’m extremely proud of her and feel as if she puts too much pressure on herself. Me and my girlfriend decided to surprise her on a vacation. Alexa has always wanted to go there and it wasn’t as pricey as we expected. We planned this in early October.
OP told Kate she could come, but only if she paid for her own ticket.
I told Kate about the vacation and asked if she wanted to come, but she would have to pay her own ticket.She said yes and would give me the money before Halloween. Well she never gave me the money even after being reminded, so I booked the trip November 1 for the 18-21 of November. I told my daughter this Sunday at dinner and she was very excited, Kate then said “ you’ll have to cancel and hope they refund. I work those days.” I told her she wasn’t coming since she didn’t pay. She was confused and thought I was paying for her. I told her that she was an adult who worked and lived free, why would I pay. She got upset and said because I’m her daughter and that I was paying for Alexa so why not her. An argument then happened which resulted in Alexa and Kate crying and Kate saying she hated me.
After the argument, Kate took drastic and dramatic measures. She posted a TikTok lying about her situation, and received over $500 through a GoFund Me because of it.
Kate has been ignoring us until we apologize and pay her ticket, which I won’t. Well yesterday Alexa sent me a link to a video on Tick Tock where it shows Kate crying and explaining the situation, but she lied about a lot of things in the videos and made Alexa and I look like bad guys. The video got a lot of attention and support. She even opened up a go fund me where she received close to 500 dollars. I showed my girlfriend and we were both livid, Alexa was also very upset about the comments which fueled my anger. When she came home a huge argument broke out and I basically kicked her out for the week.
Since being kicked out, Kate has continued to bash the family via social media.
She’s been posting on social media platforms talking about me, my daughter and girlfriend. My daughter even got some nasty messages on her social media. My girlfriend told me I’m right on this but my daughter told me to just pay for her ticket. I want to know if I’m doing the right decision, so help.
Redditors had mixed emotions about the situation. Some said she’s way too old for this behavior, and others said it was really harsh to kick her out over this. Read the top comments on the post below!
