Anna Good
A recent AITA post blew up on social media, where a college woman posted on Reddit asking if she was the asshole for founding a “hoe union” to protect herself and other women on campus from potentially-dangerous parties.
The post has since been deleted by Reddit for mentions of sexual assault, but went viral on Twitter after being reposted by Twitter user @maediocre, who captioned the screenshots saying, “Girls are amazing.”
The tweet has exploded with more than 23.9K, retweets, 3.7K quote retweets, and 167.9K likes.
The anonymous woman explained in her original post that her campus was “big on partying,” and that it wasn’t always the safest environment for the women on campus.
“It can be fun but sadly it can also be risky,” she said in the post. “Most of my friends and I have had bad experiences.”
A group chat they jokingly called the “hoe union” was formed between six friends, that expanded to 36, with a list of rules they all agreed upon to leave or not attend parties that:
– let in or [were] hosted by a person who had sexually harassed any of us or anyone else.
– didn’t let girls mix [their] own drinks or pick and open their own beers
– [were] racist / homophobic / fatphobic /otherwise bigoted about who they let in or were respectful of at the party
– tried to enforce a ‘ratio’ of girls to guys
– if the hosts had a reputation [of] pushing freshmen or inexperienced drinkers to drink heavily
The woman said that the “hoe union” rules worked out extremely well.
“When we’d go to parties and sh-t was … Off, we’d send a group chat message and all just leave for another party or go to someone’s apartment,” she said in the post.
The school’s administration found out about the so-called “union” of women and called the OP in for “leading a group that ostracized people.” She went on to say that the guidance counselor “said that there was a list of people who, if they came to an event, I’d organize so every woman left.”
While she tried to explain to the counselor that it was just a group of female friends trying to party safely, the woman accused the group of being more than just a “friend group.” OP questioned, and rightly so, why the school’s counselor “thought it was appropriate to involve herself in a private conversation that happened outside of school and campus.”
Folks online loved the female students’ initiative in partying safe and were unimpressed with the school’s administration for trying to get involved with how and where students chose to party.
One user pointed out that the “asshole party dudes” must be complaining to their “rich [daddies]” about women protecting themselves from sexual harassment.
“This needs to be at EVERY university,” one user said.
Another user pointed out the hypocrisy of the school administration only “getting involved when feelings are being hurt but not when girls are being assaulted.”
Yet another user suggested the organization of a “hoe strike.”
OP brought up the uselessness of the city and campus police in response to reports of sexual assaults.
This comparison to being treated like a kindergartener was certainly an accurate one.
Maybe if the school admin wanted to stop the “hoe union” they should do something about the unsafe environments these women were avoiding with their group chat. Just a thought.
