Emily Duprie
A recent post to the subreddit “Am I The A-hole?” presented a stay-at-home-mom (sahm) asking if she (u/throwRa6546009) had been wrong for calling her husband “insane” after he refused to go to work because she didn’t iron his uniform. From that introduction alone, I’m sure you can already see that this story has a designated “A-hole” and it’s probably not the OP (wife).
Women everywhere have to deal with husbands that have the emotional maturity of a toddler. Unfortunately for OP, she was the one blamed for losing income when her husband refused to go to his shift. Read her story below to find out exactly how the situation played out.
OP asked Reddit: “AITA for calling my husband insane for missing work just to teach me a lesson because I didn’t iron his uniform?”
Days ago. I (sahm with 3) was in the midst of doing laundry when my husband (breadwinner, works as a pilot) asked if I could iron his uniform before his shift. I didn’t say “yes” because I was busy (laundry then kids homework then cooking etc..). I said I may not find the time to to do it. He turned around and walked away completely ignoring what I was saying.
An hour later, he came downstairs freaking out asking why I didn’t iron his uniform when he asked me to. I told him I was busy and reminded him of how I didn’t say yes to his request. He blew up saying that I obviously don’t care about him displaying “professionalism” at work (um..it’s just a uniform? It’s not like it was dirty just needed some ironing). He lectured me about how his work is important and although I’m a sahm I still should make his job a priority.
She continued:
He decided to miss his shift as a way to “teach me a lesson” and show me how my lack of cooperation and my refusal to help him out could affect the money that keeps coming in. I called him insane for missing the shift, and he got offended and called me a hypocrite for calling him insane and acting all surprised when it was me who caused this situation to happen.
I mean I could have taken some time off doing my chores to iron his uniform, but still thought his reaction was a bit much. AITA? For those asking why he didn’t iron the uniform himself? Because I’m the one who usually do the ironing and he said it’s “on the list” of my house chores list which’s true, but I don’t give it priority like other chores like homework or laundry.
This poor woman is under the thumb of a very controlling and narcissistic man. Unfortunately, women are trapped in situations like these everywhere. If you or a friend of yours is stuck in the position of feeling unappreciated and used, seek help! Help is available through the domestic violence hotline here.
Redditors agreed that OP had done nothing wrong, and her husband was overreacting in a very childish way. OP was not the “A-hole,” but her husband definitely was.
