Ever have that one friend you swore to marry if you both managed to get sort of older without marrying anyone else first? Yeah, we all did, right? Looking back, it’s kind of, well, insulting to be someone’s last resort—but at the same time, pragmatic AF, amiright? You’re lonely, I’m lonely, let’s pool our money together…
And because Reddit is THE place for Internet confessions of all sorts, user Okousidis asked for people who actually got married because they were “both still single when we’re 35” to chime in. And yes, those people exist, but everyone has sort of a different story.
Here’s what the last-resort husbands and wives (and the ones who had or have plans to marry theirs) had to say. Hint: Grab a tissue. Some of these are intense!
“‘Weird’ couple my wife knew had such a pact and followed through. Thd girl was a really introverted, quiet, homely type. Sweetest girl. But she never had a boyfriend as far as I knew. And we saw her off and on for six or seven years. Then suddenly out of nowhere, she invited us to her wedding. Anyways, it was to a guy we had met a couple of times who was one of her friends who seemed very much like her. My wife teased her that “more must have been going on all that time.” but she was straight up about it, and said no, they just decided it was time.
The conversation was something like, “yeah, you know how people have pacts to get married if neither of them are till they hit ___, well, we just decided it really wasn’t going to happen for either of us, and to cut that short.” Basically we were just like, “cool?” and then left it at that. Anyways, she married him, they looked happy. The speeches were a bit odd, they didn’t really talk about love but a lot about how they were marrying their best friend. They are still together, it’s gotta be at least 5 years, and they have a little kid. Last we saw them they looked happy and that’s all that matters really.”—billbapapa
“Kind of. We left our spouses around the same time (not for each other) and decided to share a house. We got to taking one night and decided we each had all the things the other was looking for, plus we got along really well. We were in our mid-thirties by then and sick of the dating scene, so we just laid it out like a business arrangement. What started off as an “arrangement” eventually evolved into something extremely serious and passionate. We’ve been together now for almost seven years and married for almost one. We are extremely in love and I have zero regrets.”—phobiculog
“My dad married at 45. He had known my mom since childhood. They studied together too. My mom often narrates to me tales of how my dad would hit up on her and when my mom would approach him and ask what happened? He would shy away. Lol I asked my mom, what took them so much time to marry. She replied it was her decision. She told my dad to get well settled financially. My family wasnt always well off. They had their struggles. My mom had suggested that if they are planning for baby or marriage, there should be no problems for the baby. Haha..I am glad that baby was me.”—shampoo_and_dick
“Obligatory not me but a friend, disclaimer. She married a college friend 3 years ago at the age of 33. Their bet was to get married if their both single at 33 and the intention was to basically prank their parents by going through with it. They intended to be married for several months and then just casually mention it, and later just get it annulled. So they went to the courthouse with a pair of friends, got married and then she moved into his apartment. Thing was they’d been friends with benefits for a years when they were both single, and living together was so nice that they just stayed together. Their expecting their first kid in a few months.”—psychospaz
“Family friends had this pact. We were at her 30th and her boyfriend at the time proposed. Her best friend (with whom she had the pact) was gutted. He too had had a ring in his pocket. We know because he showed my dad.”—crazybuggirl
“My really good friend and I were joking about this in our early twenties and I got an idea how she really felt about me when she said “Yeah, if we’re both single at seventy let’s get married.’”—Snuffleupagus03
“My partner and I were close friends for 12 years before we got married. Through many friendships and relationships with other people, including one of us following a former lover across the country and the other being briefly engaged, we stayed “just friends” for a very long time: On New Year’s Eve in 2007-8, at the ripe old age of 23, we drunkenly made a pact to get married to each other if we weren’t married by 30. Long story short, we didn’t start dating until we both turned 30, but we got married pretty quickly after we started dating. Just celebrated 5 years of marriage, and we have a 2-year-old. It’s unconventional, but so are we, and it’s ours.”—taciturnup
“I did. But we got married 10 years earlier. We met at an ink-master finale. We immediately connected. He lived in New York, I, Florida. I went back home and we kept in touch. Made a promise if by the time we were 35 we’d marry each other. I was 25 at the time. Things intensified so much we truly believed we were meant for each other. I moved to Illinois to take care of my sick grandma. 3 months after meeting he flew there to visit and we got married. After a few more visits he moved there too. 4 years later and we have 2 kids.”—mamamoonzz
“We ended up getting married a lot sooner. He wasn’t necessarily waiting around for me but I realized I’d be devastated if he ended up with someone else and no longer had him as a constant friend in my life. Don’t let the good one’s getaway. We’ve been married 13 years now and never regretted a minute of it.”—Marilolli