Emily Duprie
The road to recovery from being an alcoholic is not easy. Many people will do well for a good period of time, and then a certain situation or trigger can cause them to pour “one more glass.” Having a supportive partner is of course important when trying to break any bad habit; but it’s important to not include them in your pain if they aren’t experiencing the same difficulties.
Recently, a Redditor (u/throwRAdrinkingwife) came to the “Am I The A-hole?” subreddit to question if he had been in the wrong for shaming his wife about being “unsupportive” after she was featured in an Instagram post with her friends, holding one measly cup of wine. OP had been attending a Mormon-based recovery group, and seemed to take the “women are expected to marry, raise children, and be a “helpmeet” to their husbands” notion a little too far.
Read his story in full below along with some of the top comments!
“She told me to get over myself and I lost it and told her that she was a bad wife and that she wasn’t committed to us and our relationship”
OP asked Reddit: “AITA for yelling at my wife for drinking?”
I (28M) am I recovering alcoholic. My father was an alcoholic when I was a child and I guess I caught it from him. I’ve been sober for about a year now, and I attend this recovery group once a week that is held by the Mormon church. I’ve been gaining an interest in their beliefs and have been considering conversion, but that’s another conversation.
My wife (26F) went out with her friends this weekend and I found out from her friend’s Instagram post that she had been drinking. She held a glass of wine in the photo, but she didn’t appear drunk when she got home. I saw the post today, and I’m going to be honest, I freaked out. She has been so helpful and supportive during my recovery, and I can’t believe she would do this to me. I confronted her as soon as I saw it, and she told me that because she wasn’t drinking around me, it wasn’t an issue. I told her that when we got married, we promised to support each other through everything and this wasn’t being supportive and a direct violation of our vows.
She told me to get over myself and I lost it and told her that she was a bad wife and that she wasn’t committed to us and our relationship (we’ve been together for four years, married for one). I told her that if she was pregnant, I wouldn’t eat all of the food she couldn’t eat to be supportive and she told me that she wouldn’t expect that from me so I can’t expect her to be sober and that I was being an asshole. After that, I just left and contacted the group leader from my recovery group and he let me chill at his house while I cooled down.
AITA?
The comments were not happy with OP’s behavior towards his wife
