Kate Hackett
I have finally reached an age where I realize that my siblings are going to be the only people on earth who have the same shared experiences with me when my parents pass on. And that that connection is important and you should make sure to care for those relationships.
It took me a long ass time to get here, though. Because, let’s face it, siblings can be irritating AF. They know all your buttons and they PRESS them. A LOT.
All these folks who posted on r/AmITheAsshole get it.
1. AITA for telling my oldest that if it so important for her sister to be at the wedding, then she should have a part to play?
I have seven children (25F, 21F, 17F, 17M, 13F, 7M, 5F). My oldest child, Rose, is getting married later this year. It should be noted that her husband also comes from a large family (two brothers and a sister).
Almost all of their siblings have some kind of role (bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer). The only sibling from either side who doesn’t have a part is Rose’s thirteen-year-old sister Iris.
My husband and I brought up this concern when we realized that Iris is the only one who would be left out of having some kind of part in the wedding. Rose insists that she and her husband don’t have enough parts for everyone and they have the final word since they are paying for most of it. We brought up the possibility of Iris still having a part like doing a reading or supervising younger siblings (the ringbearer and flower girl) but again this was also shot down.
I told Rose that she is running the risk of isolating Iris while she has to watch her brothers and sisters get to be part of the wedding. Rose said that it’s a risk she’s willing to take since, again, she doesn’t have enough space for everyone.
Now here’s the problem. Iris joined her school’s choir early this year once classes resumed again. Her teacher is organizing a trip to Ireland this spring, where they will be performing at a cathedral in Dublin. Iris really wants to go on this trip, and my husband and I agree. She’s never been abroad and the choir teacher is a member of our church, so we feel comfortable having her watch Iris. We also feel like this trip would help keep Iris’ mind off of not being in her sister’s wedding.
The only problem is that they are leaving for the trip the day after the wedding. We don’t see a problem with this since Rose will have left on her honeymoon. My husband and I were planning on taking our younger kids out to breakfast before dropping Iris off at the airport. But Rose is furious at us for agreeing to let her go on the trip.
She says that it’s because the trip is to close to her wedding and she’d like everyone’s full participation. I pointed out, “how is Iris going to participate? She has nothing to do but sit around and do nothing.” My husband agrees. If it’s so important for Iris to be there for Rose’s wedding, wouldn’t she have something to do? We told her that she feels left out and didn’t even want to hear about shopping for bridesmaids and flower girl dresses when she won’t get one herself, for example.
Rose is furious at us for insisting that we are making Iris part of her wedding and then agreeing to let her go on the trip when she refused. She doesn’t like her going on the trip so close to the wedding when she’s going to be gone the day after. She can still attend, she may just leave the reception early since she has a flight the next day.
My kids agree that Iris should just go on the trip and think Rose is being a bridezilla. What do you think? AITA?
2. AITA for not defending my siblings after they had a separate Christmas without me?
For context, my parents are divorced and living in separate houses. I moved in with my dad when I was around 16 because of my mother (she liked to take things out on me), and I currently still live with my dad full time due to college expenses and COVID. Both of my siblings visit for a week at each location. My brother and I are both 19, my sister is 17.
We slept at our dad’s on Christmas Eve, baking cookies and watching movies. Christmas morning, we stopped by our mother’s apartment to have breakfast and exchange gifts- and I noticed that only our mother and I were doing so. My sibling’s presents remained untouched, so I asked them about it before we headed out. According to my siblings, they wanted to do Christmas with “just them”.
We drove back to our father’s, and had a great time exchanging gifts and decorating the cookies we made last night. Then, my siblings drove back over to our mother’s apartment to have a Christmas with just them. Or, as they put it, “with family”.
I mentioned it offhandedly to our dad when he asked where they went- deliberately avoiding details or specifics- largely because I didn’t want to make the holiday all about me or sour the mood.
Whenever they returned home, our dad suddenly sprung a “family meeting” and spoke about treating each other like family and being there for each other. He did say that they were being rude by not including me- that we could’ve just had one big Christmas at our mom’s and then one at his instead of them driving over twice. I sat there in silence because I didn’t think he’d say anything- and I wasn’t about to admit how I actually felt hurt at the situation. My dad did say some things that could’ve been read as rude, but it was mostly saying they could’ve handled it differently or wouldn’t like it if I did something like that to them.
Now, my siblings are p*ssed at me for not defending them during the talk. They’re both being incredibly short and snappy to me, and make a pointed effort to avoid me at all costs. They have said to my face that it’s because I didn’t defend them and the only reason our dad’s upset is because I “snitched”. Am I the *sshole?
Edit: I’m seeing some repeating questions, so I figured I’d clarify inside the overall post. My siblings and I are all 100% biologically related, from the same marriage- my brother is my twin. Also, I’ve been told by multiple people that I look like my father- for those asking in the comments.
3. AITA for refusing to spoon feed my brother?
I won’t be too specific here because I don’t want any relative identifying me. I apologise for how long this is.
My brother ‘Alistair’ (24M) and I (21F) get along well enough but aren’t close. My parents unknowingly have always pitted us against each other in terms of grades, “niceness” etc.
He recently cleared three levels of a very difficult financial exam and my parents wanted to take him out for a celebratory dinner. That’s completely fine by me but I said it would be possible only after a week because: A- I have exams going on and forgive me if I’m not too confident about passing advanced statistics. B- I’m interning full-time with an MNC, C- I volunteer on the weekends. So yes, I’m not too free to go out for dinner (they want to go to a place that’s an hour’s drive away).
My dad got mad at me for not being “grateful” to my brother for doing so well. Note that after he completed his undergrad, he’s been at home for three years studying for three exams in total. He may be intelligent but he’s been at home for four years and has studied for a collective amount of 8 months with no work experience. (I sound bitter so I’ll get to that).
Now that he needs a job, my mom has given ME the responsibility of making his cv because I “write well” and Alistair is too lazy to do his own research. My parents and Alistair have both also made it clear that I have to write his LOI whenever he applies for an MBA. I told them it’s not my responsibility to do it so I wouldn’t write it for him from scratch but would help him out with it. Again, they say that Alistair is not good at ‘expressing himself’ and my selfishness may make him lose out on a good college.
My parents shame his girlfriend for not cleaning his room and learning how to cook. I’ve interjected multiple times saying he’s responsible for himself but they always say I’m too hard on Alistair and his girlfriend has to do it because my brother is definitely not willing to do his own work.
I’ve cried about this to my boyfriend who pointed out that they always seem “proud” of the fact that Alistair is lazy but make fun of me when I make one simple mistake. My parents are good people and I have a good relationship with both of them but this always seems to be an issue.
I’m definitely a people pleaser and I’ve very frankly been conditioned to believe that every time I don’t do something that will benefit someone, I’m being selfish. Right now I’m really not sure if I’m being TA or just standing up for myself.
So, people of reddit, AITA for:
Refusing to go out to dinner immediately?
Not willing to do all my brother’s work?
4. AITA for getting married before my sister after she announced her wedding first?
I really feel bad and don’t know if I’m the *sshole and how I could make everybody happy.
So my sister and I were as children always very competitive (in sports, grades..) but as I got older I didn’t want that anymore so I changed to a different sport and studied something completely different than her. She then started to get competitive with our personal life. She way always very passive-aggressive about me having a boyfriend first. Later I moved together with my boyfriend and she made mean comments about it all the time. After a while she found her perfect match and things got easier. I knew that she wanted to get married first and be the first one to have children and it didn’t bother me at all because I’m in no hurry. Last Christmas she announced that she was getting married (in 2023) and I was really happy for her.
At the beginning of this month my boyfriend (26) and I got a call from his younger brother (24). He was informed from his doctor that he has a very aggressive disease. We couldn’t believe it and went to his home to be there for him. My boyfriend was his best man for his brothers wedding (their dad died when they were little and they are very close). It meant a lot to him. Last week my boyfriend asked me if I would marry him. He said that he could understand if it’s not that romantic but he said he wanted to marry while his brother is here and to have him as his best man. I never cared about a expensive wedding with a lot of people and always wanted to have a nice day with the most important persons in our life so I could totally get that. I agreed because I love him and I also know how happy it would make his little brother. But I immediately knew that this would cause stress with my sister. I called her (she knows that my boyfriends brother is very sick) and told her about the proposal and that it will be only a small wedding this year (with her, my parents / grandparents and some friends) so she could still have this big wedding first. She got mad and called me jealous and that I’m using a dying person to get married first. I know that she was overreacting but I also feel bad because she announced it first and it means so much to her and I don’t want to ruin her moment. So AITA?
Edit: I‘m 25 and she’s my older sister (27). And sorry for my bad grammar and spelling – English is my second language.
5. AITA for refusing to babysit for my sister?
My (f19) sister (32) “mary” and her husband (28) “John” have twins, a boy and a girl (both 10 months old). My parents were ecstatic when they found out she was pregnant as the twins were their first grand children and my sister had been struggling with getting pregnant for a while. I was happy for my sister and John but I couldn’t help wondering how they were gonna handle this financially. They’re in quite a bit of debt and both work long hours. My question was answered a few weeks ago when we had a big family dinner ( me, parents, mary, John, brother mike (21), brother josh (25) and his wife Sophie (27) ) My sister announced she would be returning to work in two weeks so they were gonna need everyone to chip in and babysit and to help out financially.
I’m not gonna lie I was shocked when I heard this because it sounded a bit ridiculous that they expected everyone to babysit their kids for free and to give them money for their debts. Mary went around the table asking everyone when they could watch the twins so she could draw up a roster and how much money they could spare. Everyone was contributing and Sophie was even talking about trying to move her work shifts around so that she could babysit. I’m a full time college student and I have a part time job at a bakery so I really have no time or cash to spare. I’m also not great with kids, especially babies, I literally have absolutely no idea how to take care of them.
When Mary got around to me she said she thought I could do the most hours since I was only in college and didn’t have any serious commitments. Her whole attitude kind of annoyed me and I told I wasn’t going to be babysitting her kids or going to chip in money wise and that it was her decision to have kids so it’s her responsibility. The room went silent and my sister started crying and everyone started giving out to me for being selfish and my mom said that in our family we take care of each other. I left the dinner because everyone was so mad at me and demanding I apologize.
I agree that maybe I was a little blunt with her and maybe I should’ve offered to babysit once or twice but I don’t think I’m completely in the wrong. My family is still pissed at me and my parents are demanding I not only apologize to Mary and John but write them a Cheque to help them out (I have like $70 in my bank account so that’s not gonna happen). I want to apologize for being rude but I know they’re still gonna expect help. Am I the *sshole?
6. AITA for not going along with my siblings vacation plans?
My (36F) 2 older siblings(39M and 44F) and I all live in different states and recently began planning sort of family reunion/vacation to celebrate my mother’s 65th birthday. My siblings both have kids and I am married and have no kids yet. Someone had the bright idea that for this vacation we should rent a nice large house with a pool so that we could all hang out together with as a big family since we don’t usually all get together at the same time.
It sounded like a great idea and my sister and sister-in-law both put themselves in charge of finding the house and doing most of the planning. We agreed to split the cost of the house 3 ways and to cover the expenses for our mom and step dad as well. My husband has a huge project at work that coincides with my mother’s birthday so he would not be able to come. The other day my sister told me they found the perfect house and sent me a link so I could see it. The house looked great except for one major thing. There were only 3 bedrooms. My sister explained that my mother and her husband would get the master’s bedroom, our brother and his wife would get the second bedroom and she and her husband would be in the 3rd. When I asked where I was supposed to sleep she said “You can sleep in the living room with all the kids”.
I was not happy at all. I told her that I wanted my own room, and that we would have to find a house with 4 bedrooms. She said that I would not have to pay as big of a portion towards the house so it shouldn’t be a big deal, and that I should just go along with their plan since they were ready to put the deposit down. She also said that they liked this house best and had gone through so much work to find it that I should just be grateful for their hard work. I didn’t back down though. I’m an introvert and I need alone time to decompress, especially after being around family and rambunctious children. Though I love my nieces and nephews dearly, there are 8 of them total, all under 10 and that can be a little overwhelming for me to deal with when they are all together. Plus I want to sleep on a bed, not on a sofa surrounded by 8 children. I was irritated that my siblings were all treating me like my comfort didn’t matter at all. This was supposed to be a vacation after all, and I wanted to enjoy myself, not sleep on the sofa in a luxurious house while all the other adults enjoyed comfortable beds. I told my sister that of they wanted to go ahead and take the house I would still pay part for my mother and stepfather, but that I would be staying in a hotel. I don’t think this is at all unreasonable. My sister became angry and told me I was being difficult and ruining everything. After we got off the phone I started getting messages from my brother and sister-in-law telling me that I was selfish and overreacting to what was only a minor inconvenience and that the whole point was to spend time with family so I can’t stay in a hotel. Am I the *sshole?
7. AITA for refusing to eat anything my brother touches?
I(15) have a brother(13) who is really unhygienic. He doesnt brush his teeth in the morning, he doesn’t wash his hands after using the bathroom, he doesnt shower regularly, he picks his nose and etc. There are a lot of other things that he does that I dont want to get into detail about because Its really nasty (4 words: Poop in the sink). So every time he touches anything being prepared in the kitchen, or if he makes anything, I refuse to eat it. And yes, l’ve tried talking to him about like, “Hey could you wash your hands well before you make so and so”, and he just starts yelling at me or complaining to our parents or he starts deliberately touching my food. Sometimes he does wash his hands but not thoroughly/properly (like just dowsing his hands in water). I’ve tried talking to my parent but they (especially my mom) shut it down saying that he’s my brother and I shouldn’t treat him like that, and that I’m the one with the problem.
Recently we were all making pizzas and he started touching the dough. I backed out and said I wasn’t hungry anymore. He started yelling saying that he washed his hands and stuff, but I still don’t want to eat it. My mom started giving me weird looks and calling me ridiculous. I’ll admit I do have a germ problem but I just wanna know, AITA?
8. AITA for not watching my brothers so my parents can get it on?
In the event of the story, I was 18, my parents in their 40s, and my brothers, 12, 11 & 7.
I have recently moved to my first command ( I am in the military), and my mother planned for us to drive equal amount of hours to meet in the middle, because one of the days we were spending together was also my father’s birthday. So we both drove 4 & 1/2 hours and met up, we went sight seeing and then went to the hotel she booked for us.
At the hotel, we were all getting situated and started to relax, Before I drove 4 1&2 hours, I also worked! Which if I remember correctly my parents did not because it was a weekend for them. So I was laying in my designated bed and then my father turns to me and says “Hey _____ , why don’t you take your brothers to the lobby so your mom and I can have alone time?” I was really exhausted, and I honestly wanted to go to sleep instead of watching three young boys in a lobby. So I said something along the lines of “no, I’m sorry but I am very tired.” and they just looked at me and then got quiet and went to bed. I really thought nothing of it.
The next morning, my dad wouldn’t even look at me. I gave him his present, he opened it and said “Wow another t-shirt” and I don’t even think he thanked me for his birthday gift. Anyway, for the rest of the day he didn’t speak to me at all. My mother did, she acted completely normal.
The next day, we went for breakfast and that’s when sh*t hit the fan. Long story short, something sparked a heated argument between my father and I. He brought up that I was “such an *sshole that I couldn’t even watch my brother so they can have alone time”, and I brought up how “I was tired and just wanted to relax “and he said that “That’s a b*llsh*t excuse.” I also brought up that they can have alone time every single day of the year why is it SUCH a big deal.
Anyway, yeah. That was three years ago and my mother told me recently it was the least I could have done for them.
9. AITA for dumping my sister’s dirty laundry all over her room when she brought her bf over?
My sister (19f) Carla came back to live with us. And I’m (17M) annoyed af because she has a habit of hogging the the washing machine ALL week with her dirty laundry. What she does is everytime she changes she takes her dirty clothes and leaves it in the washer.
Then on Saturday she puts everything she left in the laundry all week to wash. My parents don’t they sh*t. They just wait for her whenever she’s done washing her clothes then they do their laundry on like Sunday. But for me I hate it. About to our clothes to wash then seeing hers already in there. My mom always says it’s not a big deal just wait for the weekend or put Carla’s clothes in her hamper in her room then when I’m done put it back. Because otherwise she starts b*tching if I leave her clothes on the floor nxt to the washer.
Yesterday I needed to wash my shirt before work cause there was a big stain on it. She already had a whole bunch of clothes just sitting in the washer. I got so mad I grabbed her dirty clothes but instead of putting it in her hamper I dumped it all over her room. As in the floor and on her bed. She lost it when she got home because her boyfriend came too and they were gonna watch a movie in her room. So she was embarrassed walking in to that.
I told her to stop leaving her f*cking clothes in the laundry then but she still called me a dick my mom thinks I need to apologize for not putting her clothes in the hamper then putting it back where it was after I finished my laundry. I’m still kinda on the side where I’m not TA but idk
10. AITA for “embarrassing” my brother by wearing a cape?
I (33f) own a cape. It’s a gorgeous colour, has beautiful trim detail, and even has pockets. When I was getting ready to go out this morning, I chose to wear it instead of one of my coats or jackets. Over a shiny, textured ankle length skirt and a sparkly long sleeve top, because I felt like dressing up a bit.
We popped home briefly to check what was in the freezer before going to the supermarket. I noticed that there was an empty bottle of mouthwash in the bathroom and asked my brother (30) if he needed more, and then if there was anything else he needed.
“Errrr… I’ll get dressed and come with you.”
It was only once he was dressed that he realised I was wearing my cape. He grumbled about it. Then when we got to the first shop on our excursion, he told me to stay away from him. He didn’t want to be seen with me.
We’re sat in the car now and he’s plainly annoyed that I didn’t change before coming back out. And while mum’s spare jacket is in the car next to me, I have no intention of swapping my purple cape for an oversized grey fleece.
AITA for dressing in non-conventional clothing when I know my brother is embarrassed by it?
11. AITA for not congratulating my brother and sister in law on their baby after she stole my name?
For a while before I got married we talked about baby names. We came up with Sienna for a girl and were set on it. We have a specific last name.
Back story my brother in law was set to get married July 2020 COVID hit and they pushed a year till July 2021. I got engaged in October 2020 and set our date for October 2021. It was a whole ordeal that we were getting married in the same year.
Fast forward to my rehearsal dinner. My sister in law is pregnant due in 3 months. We sat down and I asked her if they decided on a name. They wanted to settle on an Irish catholic name her top 2 were Lily and Jeremey. I then brought up how specific our now shared last name was and that we had a few favorites. I said boys names are so hard but for a girl I love Sienna. It just has a ring to it and goes so well. I repeated the first and last name a few times swooning. We continued to chat for about 20 minutes about names and favorites the conversation ended.
Right before the due date we visited them they hadn’t told us a name we assumed it was a secret. Didn’t come up as we toured the nursery. A week later I look in our family text my whole body started shaking, I was in shock, pure disbelief. The name they picked was not the 2 she told me it was Sienna. How can you forget that conversation? Why didn’t she say anything? Was this why the name was a secret?
I later found out everyone but us knew about the name. Even an aunt to knit a stocking… The obvious first thought was she took the name and didn’t give a sh*t about how I felt. It was just too much of a coincidence. I remembered how they treated us when we wanted to have our wedding, it seemed kinda on brand for them. Randomly settling on that name didn’t make sense. So over the next month I didn’t say anything in the group text. I was still so hurt as to why she would do that. I forgot about it for the most part and life went on.
We decided it was best not to say anything to them and the right time would come. Well a month later it did my brother in law asked my husband to be the god father and he decided to bring it up. I wasn’t part of that conversation but things seem to have gotten pretty heated. Her excuse was the name was on her list and it was a name her sister decided not to use. And she didn’t remember our (20 minute conversation) 3 months prior. That excuse to me seems weak considering everything but beyond the point. Their response was we are extremely upset that I hadn’t texted congratulating them on the birth of their first born and were hurt I would think she would steal the name. They ended with we should take a break from seeing each other which is rich because we live thousands of miles away. Somehow I went from being the one who was wronged to the bad guy and I feel like I have whiplash.
AITA for not texting congratulations to my brother and sister in law? Or was I justified?
12. AITA for turning down a family vacation because I would have to pay and my sister wouldn’t?
My (28F) parents are organising a family holiday abroard and have approached me stating that they will be paying for my sister’s (30F) holiday but not mine. This is because, to them, I can afford it and she cannot, and that is the only way we would all be able to go on vacation together (they couldn’t pay for us both). That it’s their money and they can do as they wish with it, and that I am in a good spot financially right now and my sister isn’t, if I ever find myself in a bad spot, they will help me out.
But to me, it’s not that simple. I am more financially stable that my sister because I have chosen to live in a cheaper area (despite being further from my friends), followed a career path where financial security is guaranteed, and always live well within my means. Whereas my sister has followed a career path which is (unfairly, I admit) underpaid, insisted on living close to her friends despite the high rent and likes to spend more money on her lifestyle.
My parents think the crux of it is that I am lucky that my passion lines up with a well paid job, and my sister is unlucky that her passion does not, so my sister deserves more help due to that bad luck. They also think that I am lucky to have a partner that I could move away to a cheaper are with, and my sister (who doesn’t currently have a serious partner) is unlucky in that respect, so it would be a greater deal to move away from her friends and therefore again unlucky. Again, they insist if the tables turn and our fortunes are reversed, they would help me out.
AITA for refusing this holiday and choosing one with my friends at the same time instead? If the money thing wasn’t there, I would probably have chosen this family holiday. But I just feel like my frugal decisions are now being punished and this is unfair. I’m not angling for my parents to pay for me too, and I also feel bad kind of suggesting (indirectly) my sister pay for hers, but I still feel really hard done by and that my sister is being coddled and the fact that she spends quite a lot on a day to day basis (much more than me) is being rewarded.
My parents and sister think I am being money hungry and not very compassionate to my sister’s unlucky love life and under-paid profession. This is stopping us from going on a vacation all four of us, which is upsetting my parents.
13. AITA- making my pregnant sister cry over a baby name
Clarifying- I said the mean things when I still truly believed it was a joke. I stopped when she said she was serious but obviously damage was done.
So my 22 yo sister is 34 weeks pregnant with her first child. Her and her bf are very into Viking names because of the tv show they watch.
She was set on naming the baby girl a normal-ish name after not choosing Thora and katta from her list. None of the family was super into the name but it was normal enough so we all accepted it and didn’t discourage her.
Recently she change her mind and her five options are as follows
Freja Ada Molly Faye LAGERTHA
I replied to the message with new names saying ‘lol wtf lagertha sounds like a dying cow’ thinking the last one was a joke. I then asked her if it was a joke and she said ‘no!’ I honestly thought she was still keeping us going as she’s done things like this in the past and proceeded to tell her the name would get the child bullied and would potentially start ridicule. I also said it sounded like a shipyard term. After this I researched the name and realized again it’s from the tv show, only 35 people have been names it since 2016- none since mid 1800’s and that’s it’s pronounced la-gert-ah. She then told me I was being rude and that she was crying. I know I shouldn’t have been rude about it but I cannot see a kid named lagertha no being bullied. Or ever have her name pronounced correctly. I’m probably the *sshole for how I managed the situation but I honestly thought she was joking about that name as all the others were more normal names. My family told me that I should let her have her names because her happiness over them matters.
But like what about the kids future??? What if Chlamydia was an option, would they have still stepped back and been okay with all names?
Edit number- idek I do not think the name is an ugly name, I do think it’s a strong name and has a lot of meaning. However, in the the UK and US it won’t be understood immediately and that was my true immediate reaction to how I thought the name was pronounced. I’m sorry for offending anyone with the name or anyone who is from that part of the world. There are European and American names that would be ridiculed in other parts of the world for what they mean in different languages.
My British sister wants to name her kid Lagertha to be brought up in a British country. Not Scandinavian. Brits can be cruel (I guess I proved that right) and will not understand either right away.
We’ve since made up, I’ve told her how I feel (in a gentle and kind way) and she apologized for taking it so harshly.
14. AITA for wanting to eat foods that have nuts in them in my house despite the fact that my brother is allergic?
i (F15) really like nut products in general but hardly ever get to have them in my house because my brother is allergic to all nuts so my stepmom refuses to have anything containing nuts in the house.
usually I don’t complain about it because it’s just whatever but yesterday i was out with friends and came home with some snacks, it was just some of the nutella snack packs and some other chocolate and i left it on my dresser. this morning my stepmom came into my room and saw the snacks on my dresser and got mad at me for having them in the house, i argued back that its in my room so it’s not that big of a deal and she still wasn’t having it.
this turned into an argument about the no nuts rule in general because i’ve always thought it was dumb but never really bothered to challenge it. our family consists of 6 people and only 1/6 has a nut allergy so i don’t think it’s fair that nobody else can have nuts just because one person is allergic.
my brother is 4 and wouldn’t know what does and doesn’t have nuts in them so i understand not wanting to have them in accessible areas to him like the kitchen but i don’t get me not being able to have it in my room where i can just hide it or something if need be.
in conclusion she didn’t hear me out and made me throw it all in the trash which made me mad but whatever, i wanted to know other peoples opinion on this. AITA?
15. AITA for telling my sister posting her grades is a foolish and boastful move?
My (20F) sister (19F) is a university student. She’s incredibly intelligent overachiever and studies in a hyper-competitive school
Recently, her grades were released and they were all the highest ones you can possibly dream off. She immediately made a Instagram story with the joking caption: “trading my grades for my favorite anime character.”
I found the very act of her posting her grades boastful and tactless. Moreover it’s pointless. There’s literally nothing to gain from posting her grades, aside from clout. I find it to be tasteless and unnecessarily prideful.
My greatest concern is that she’s setting herself up to be targeted by her classmates. Her friends might no longer help her if she needs help, because they might become jealous. She will receive unwanted attention too.
AITA?
