Emily Duprie
Ladies, it is the year 2022. If you still think you “need a man” to be successful in life, I’ve got some amazing news for you! You don’t. Women around the world have woken up to the simple fact that we are fully capable of a productive, happy, life and career without the help of the male species. Hooray! Some of you however, are at an unfortunate standstill in your self-confidence. If you feel this is about you, take a deep breath and remind yourself that every step you take during the journey of your life is entirely in your control.
Moving forward to today’s lovely “AITA?” conundrum; a recent post revealed two women, twins, who are very different in how they perceive the world. One twin, OP (throwaway6103911) was asked on a date by a popular boy at her college, Dave. With him not being her cup of tea, she passed him along to her identical sister, Kim, who proceeded to attend possibly the worst date he had ever been on. Kim’s misogynistic comments and behavior were a complete turn-off for our beloved Dave, and when he shared this information with OP, she was very embarrassed.
Read her full story below along with some of the top comments and let us know what you think!
“At some point I just cut her off and told her that she had a chance of a nice date with a guy she liked but ruined it all because she couldn’t stop being a misogynistic pick me even for one second.”
OP asked the Reddit community: “AITA for telling my sister she could’ve dated the guy she liked had she not been such a misogynistic pick me?”
My (20F) sister Kim and I are identical twins. We were very different growing up and still are. I hate to say this but Kim is the definition of a pick me girl, always spewing misogynistic nonsense on how women are weak and should abide to men. How she’s so short and petite so she can’t do anything on her own without a big strong man around. How all the girls are trying too hard by wearing makeup while she is pretty naturally so they all hate her for it. You get the gist.
Introducing Dave…
Kim and I attend the same college but study there in different departments. In one of my classes there is this guy named Dave, Dave is your typical handsome frat boy that most girls in our college have a crush on including Kim.
Over the summer I’ve started working in a small coffee shop near campus to earn some extra cash. During that time Dave became a frequent customer there and was pretty friendly toward me since he recognized me from class. After a while he admitted that he’s attracted to me and asked me out so we can get to know each other. Knowing that Kim liked him I decided to reject Dave and instead offered to set him up with her, we are identical so if he asked me out based on attraction it really shouldn’t matter. Dave agreed and I gave him my sisters number.
Dave approached OP after the date with some bad news regarding the date:
I knew they met up for a date during the weekend but didn’t have the time to ask Kim how it went since I was sick. Today during my shift Dave approached me and asked if I could return to Kim the lipgloss she left in his car since he knew the brand was expensive. I asked him why he didn’t return it to her himself and he said that he didn’t want to see her after how the date went.
I was confused and so I asked him if the date was really that bad. He explained that they went to a nice restaurant where my sister didn’t stop harassing and criticizing the waitress for wearing too much make up and looking “easy”. After that fiasco was over she proceeded to say some stuff that I can only imagine are usually said in an Andrew Tate podcast. Dave who was apparently raised by a single mother and has 5 sisters was horrified so he excused himself to the bathroom, paid for their meal, venmod Kim some cash for an Uber and left her at the restaurant alone.
After confronting her sister on the matter, OP realized that she needed a good dose of the truth and a lot of help.
I was embarrassed for Kim but totally understood why Dave walked out on her so I apologized on her behalf and took the lipgloss with me. I returned it to her 2 hours ago and she didn’t stop complaining on how awful Dave was, how he wasn’t a real man since real man usually like when she brings up how women are inferior to them. At some point I just cut her off and told her that she had a chance of a nice date with a guy she liked but ruined it all because she couldn’t stop being a misogynistic pick me even for one second.
I’m now back at my apartment and Kim hasn’t stopped texting me demanding I apologize but I don’t feel like it. AITA?
OP then updated Reddit on what was happening in terms of her sister’s opinions and an unexpected question from Dave:
Update:
I would like to start this off by saying that although I don’t agree or excuse Kim’s actions I do understand that they come from a place of insecurity. And although I knew her obsession over male validation was not normal I didn’t understand the severity of it until now. I’ve talked with our parents and they both agreed based on what I told them that we’ll try to convince Kim to attend therapy after the holidays. I’m not she’ll agree but it’s worth a shot.
I ended up getting Dave’s phone number from a classmate of ours. I’ve sent him a text apologizing again for what went on and thanked him for still paying for my sisters meal and making sure she had a away to get home safely. We talked a bit more, one thing led to another and we agreed to meet up for lunch next week after class. I don’t know if I should consider this a date or not since we didn’t label it as such but I think I’ll just meet him there and see how it goes.
Needless to say, Kim was not at all entertained with the thought of her sister dating the same guy who stood her up.
I told Kim about it and to say she was pissed would be an understatement, she called me a horrible sister for agreeing to meet a guy who publicly humiliated her by leaving her alone at the restaurant. I retaliated by reminding her that she was the one who embarrassed him first by causing a scene in public. She was also the one who said that he’s not manly enough for her and lost all interest, so she can’t say she has a claim to him. After calming her down she agreed with me and said that a female like her deserves a manlier alpha male (yes, I know this sounds super cringy). I didn’t know what to say to that so I just laughed and wished her good luck with that. I think she’s still a bit salty over this and her ego is definitely bruised but at least I know she’s completely over Dave.
The post was so popular it made it to “AITA?” TikTok:
I want to thank everyone for your support and for the awards. I don’t think I’ll post another update here but if anything interesting happens next week with Dave I’ll make sure to update on my page.
Btw, this is my first time posting here and I have to say that it feels so surreal to open TikTok and see my post voiced by AI with a subway surfer gameplay in the background😂😂
Redditors agreed that OP wasn’t the “A-hole” and that Dave was the only good product of this situation. They’re encouraging OP to date Dave, but in my opinion, if Dave was deserving of OP he wouldn’t have gone on a date with her sister just because they “looked the same.” Check out some of the top comments below:
