Becoming a parent comes with a lot of responsibilities and when you make the choice to raise a child, certain sacrifices must be made to ensure the best life for your little one. Some of these sacrifices include doing things you don’t want to do for the betterment of someone else, spending money even when you really don’t want to, and not spending as much time on hobbies you used to do often. When it comes down to it, these are things any mature adult and parent could adjust to easily, but sometimes it takes a little reality check for some “adults” to actually grow up.
A recent submission to the subreddit “Am I The A-hole?” introduced the story of u/Sadiawil977 and her YouTube streaming husband. Our original poster (OP) first expressed her previous concerns towards her husband being responsible enough to watch their 7 month old on his own. Despite these worries, she left the child with him to go grocery shopping for a few hours. When she came home, she was outraged to find her baby in a separate room, unattended to and in need of changing and feeding. Frustrated and distraught, she asked Redditors if they thought she was in the wrong for screaming at her irresponsible husband in front of all his followers during his live stream.
Below you can read the story in context as well as some of the top comments.
“I told him to not say a word but he kept yelling calling me out of control and unhinged.”
OP asked: “AITA for interrupting my husband’s “Live stream” and going off on him after he “forgot” to feed and change our daughter’s diaper?”
My f32 husband m35 has a YouTube channel with over 14k followers. He’s been doing live streaming a lot lately even though I told him that we have responsibilities to take care of. Before our daughter (she’s 7 months old) was born he’d stream randomly and spend lot of time with his “followers”. Answering questions and engaging in conversations. He keeps saying that his followers are good for his mental health and that engaging with them weekly makes him become better at socializing and communicating.
He’s been complaining about wanting to do a live stream for days. I told him we’d look at our schedule and see if we could get him some time to make it happen. Apparently, this wasn’t good enough. Yesterday I had to go grocery shopping and asked him to keep an eye on our daughter while she was asleep. He said okay.
I was gone for 4 hrs but kept calling him to see if everything was OK. He’d tell me she was alright and that she was sleeping. I started getting this weird feeling something was wrong because, she must’ve been hungry or needed a diaper change. He argued that everything was fine. I immediately went home and when I entered the house I didn’t find him, I shouted his name but got nothing. I went into the bedroom and saw that my daughter was awake and her diaper wasn’t changed…and worse was that her bottle was even touched. I was confused. I got out and noticed that his office’s door was closed. I figured he was doing a live streaming from the noise I heard. I was beyond seething. I barged into the office and saw him sitting. I blew up while he was trying to turn his mic off and telling me to stop but I didn’t stop. I berated him for leaving our daughter unattended and with no milk nor diaper change. He freaked out on me saying I just ended his entire channel and destroyed his fan base for interrupting his live stream and embarrassing and scandalized him like that. I told him to not say a word but he kept yelling calling me out of control and unhinged. He was almost crying so I had to leave the office.
He kept fighting with me until I decided to go stay with my mom. He started blaming me for ignoring his needs after he already expressed them and that he forgot to do what I asked him and I’d cost him so much. Now he’s telling me to come back home because he misses his daughter.