Emily Duprie
There are certain factors one should consider when allowing a couple to move into your home. For one, you can expect them to do “married couple things” when you’re not around, I’m sure if you have any knowledge of being in a relationship, you understand what i’m referring to. It’s unfair to be upset when these activities take place, especially when they don’t effect you directly at all.
A recent Reddit post told the story of a woman’s brother-in-law and sister moving into her house after they were evicted due to medical expenses for their daughter. The two were caught in the heinous act of “walking out of the bathroom together.” Distraught by the sight, OP’s husband demanded that she talk to their new tenants and set some boundaries. Needless to say, OP got the reaction you can expect. Read the story in full below, along with some of the top comments!
OP asked: “AITA for telling my sister to stop taking showers with her husband in my house?”
My f32, sister f28, and her husband m32 moved in with us 2 days ago after they lost their apartment to medical debts for their child (my nephew). My husband and I are more than happy to have them stay for few weeks til they get this resolved.
However, Yesterday at 7 PM, I was in the kitchen when my husband rushed in and said that he saw both my sister and her husband walk out of the bathroom. They’d most likely taken a shower together. My husband said that it irked him and I agreed that what they did was somewhat inappropriate. He asked me to speak to my sister on the matter and I did. She got defensive asking how this is affecting me or my husband in any way. I told her that it made my husband feel uncomfortable and would rather that they just take their showers separately.
She started ranting about being overwhelmed by their son’s health problems and not having some alone time together as a married couple and found this activity as a bonding time to spend together. I apologized for how she felt but requested that she just do as asked. She got mad at me and said that I was being inconsiderate and she didn’t understand my husband’s hangup on what she and her husband do. We started arguing and she stormed off to the guests room where my nephew and BIL are.
She’s not speaking to me but my husband said I did the right thing by speaking to her and setting this boundary. AITA? Am I (and my husband) overreacting to this?
Some info:
-My husband did not mention hearing anything, just that he saw them get out of the bathroom. And yes they were clothed.
-It’s the only bathroom in the house.
-They spent approximately 10 mins in the shower according to my husband.
EDIT* I’m gonna bring my husband to look at the responses and help answer some questions down here, okay? Just give me a few minutes. I’m sorry I can’t respond to every single comment but my husband says he’s uncomfortable and doesn’t want to expand on the situation.
Redditors agreed that it was downright weird that OP’s husband cared so much about what his sister/brother-in-law were doing. OP was voted as the “A-hole.” Below are some top comments from the post:
