Emily Duprie
Sometimes, something may seem like our business, but it’s just not. There’s a few topics out there with some grey area when it comes to taking matters into your own hands. Your friend being pregnant and not wanting to tell the father is one of them. When it comes to women’s bodies, the choice is theirs.
Every once in a while though, we come across some very sticky situations with a lot of room for interpretation. One redditor (u/maleficent8080) recently came to the “Am I The A-hole?” subreddit after her SIL outed her secret pregnancy to her fiance at dinner…with her entire family present.
Read the full story below to determine who you think the “a-hole” was in this situation. Sometimes there’s more than one!
OP asked: “AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant?”
I decided to keep my pregnancy to myself because I don’t know what I’m going to do about it and I knew my fiancé wasn’t going to be happy with the news. My future sister-in-law/best friend is the only other person who knew as I only took the test at her suggestion and at her house. She also agreed that her brother was unlikely to be happy about it but she felt like I should tell him immediately anyway.
We kept arguing over it because I told her I needed time to process it and she felt like I was making excuses to avoid telling him. In the end, she told him herself while we were having dinner with their family. He was so upset he confronted me in front of everybody so now they all know and everybody is upset with me for keeping it from him.
His sister kept trying to reach out and apologize after it happened but I was ignoring her as her only excuse was that he was her brother so she couldn’t keep it from him and that she gave me 3 weeks to tell him myself. The last time she called me I was so upset that I answered and yelled at her. In the heat of the moment, I uninvited her from the wedding and told her I would find a new bridesmaid.
I’ve given my fiancé and his family another reason to be upset with me but I’ve refused to let her come to the wedding even as a regular guest despite them asking me to and it being important to them for her to attend.
AITA?
Yeesh. The first question that came to my mind was, “how can you expect to marry someone that you can’t even tell you’re pregnant?” Although the SIL was semi in the right for telling her brother the information, it wasn’t really her business. Plus, telling him at family dinner seemed a little intentional and passive towards OP.
I can sympathize with OP, as being pregnant is a big deal and comes with a lot of tough decisions, but if she wasn’t comfortable enough to talk to her fiance about it, he may not be the kind of guy she should spend the rest of her life with.
Redditors in the comments agreed that everyone sucked in this situation, and there wasn’t a singular a-hole out of the lot of them.
OP commented,
