Emily Duprie
Sometimes, an insult to our pride can cause a major lapse in our judgment. One little hit to the ego, and we put ourselves in a position that we could have completely avoided had we just taken a deep breath and been the bigger person. As we all know, it doesn’t always work out like that, and we often become ensnared in a situation we wish we weren’t in.
One Reddit user (u/Sadandexhausted133) recently came forth with a very poorly worded question: “AITA for missing my FIL’s funeral after my MIL booked my husband first class but me economy?” With the context contained in the post, it’s easy to see that OP’s pride was wounded by her bitter MIL. That however, doesn’t justify how she handled the situation. Read her story below along with some of the top comments and let us know what you think!
OP unironically asked Reddit: “AITA for missing my FIL’s funeral after my MIL booked my husband first class but me economy?”
Me (f31) and my MIL don’t have a close relationship. She’s civil towards me but can be a bit passive aggressive at times and we tend to disagree often.
We live in a different state. FIL passed away suddenly and MIL told me and my husband to come attend the funeral. She booked our tickets to fly to her state. But the issue started when my husband told me that we couldn’t sit together in the plane because his mom had booked him a first class ticket while I got economy.
Why OP’s husband couldn’t make someone’s day and switch seats to economy with his wife is beyond me. She continued…
I was flabbergasted by this. I tried asking him why but he urged me to “suck it up, and we’ll talk about it later.” In that moment, that particular moment, I felt so much humiliation and contempt. I felt like she was treating me as less than even in her hard times. I decided to not go and just go back home. My husband was shocked by my decision to go home and tried to convince me to just go but I declined.
Instead of enduring an economy seat (which is not that bad), she decided to just not go at all.
He went alone and I ended up missing the funeral. He was livid just calling me and texting nasty things calling me petty and spoiled. He said that I should be grateful his mom paid for my ticket to begin with, then said that she doesn’t OWE me a Goddamn thing. I argued about how she could’ve just booked us both in economy if money was an issue but he called me pathetic for thinking about it when his dad just died. He said it was cruel what I did and that his mom and family will never forget that I missed the funeral over ridiculous reasons.
So, OP asked:
AITA for going home over this?
She proceeded to add an edit to the original post…
ETA. One of the reasons I didn’t settle for the economy ticket was because I wanted to sit next to my husband and support him. He sobbed the whole ride to the airport and I didn’t want to leave his side. I was shocked when he told me we couldn’t sit together, and how he said it like he had no issue with it.
Redditors were not happy with OP’s selfishness and hypocrisy. They agreed that even though she had gotten the short end of the stick, OP was the “A-hole” in this situation for not sucking it up and supporting her husband in his time of need.
