Relationships

Woman’s Viral Tweet Highlights The Difference Between An Abusive Relationship And A Healthy One

A tweet highlighting the difference between an abusive relationship and a healthy relationship has gone viral. Twitter user @MaycPeterson2 shared a side-by-side shot of two text messages, one that shows a controlling and manipulative partner and the other that shows a partner who is supportive and caring.

The caption reads, “Difference between a boy and a man,” which I don’t really love because associating immaturity with abusive behavior is unhealthy for everyone. But forgetting that, let’s take a closer look at the messages. They both begin similarly but end on very different notes. 

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The first message begins, “Hey babe where ya at?” Then, the other person responds, “I’m out with some friends.” Then, “Wow well have fun. Thanks so much for just now letting me know. Try not to cheat on me. Night.” Then, the other person responds with some question marks, clearly confused. The answer to their questions shuts down everything: “I said night.” 

The second message also starts with a question about where the other person is. “Oh okay babe, where are you?” The person says they are at a party. The response is a lot less intense: “Then you can just call me and talk later okay.” “Are you sure?” the other person asks. “Of course, have fun and let me know when you’re home safe, I love you.” Yes, that’s the proper response, not passive-aggressive crap. 

 

The tweet was likely intended to show the difference between a person who has abusive tendencies and a person who does not, but some people on social media are just stupid and awful, and now my head hurts. 

Some people got the idea, though.

Obviously, communication is key. But responding to a partner with thinly veiled rage is never a good sign.

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Patricia Grisafi

Patricia Grisafi, PhD, is a freelance writer and educator. Her work has appeared in Salon, Vice, Bitch, Bustle, Broadly, The Establishment, and elsewhere. She is passionate about pit bull rescue, cursed objects, and designer sunglasses.