Jon
Anyone who has ever been cheated on will tell you that it is one of the worst feelings ever, especially if their significant other didn’t confess themselves and they had to find out on their own. Going through your partner’s texts, emails, or social media is a crappy and invasive thing to do, but is it really so bad if you found out they are being unfaithful? It’s a catch-22: if they’re innocent, you are an insecure snoop, but if they’re guilty, the snooping was justified.
That is exactly how many of the folks who responded to this thread by Redditor u/pugsarelife2 found out their partners were cheating. Oftentimes, there are relationship red flags that warrant that snooping. “Men and women of Reddit who caught their significant others cheating, how did you do that? And what was your reaction?” they asked earlier this week.
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I caught my wife after she passed away from cancer. Worst feeling ever. Caught between unending love, mourning and absolute anger.—u/kjv984
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This is almost word for word how the convo went: Me: you sleeping with so and so Her: yea Me: wanna divorce? Her: kinda Me: ok I’ll file tomorrow—u/scm8809
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Went for my yearly check up and tested positive for chlamydia. Turns out my ex was sleeping around.
Edit: apparently false positives are common with these types of tests so have your SO tested as well. I hope you’re in a relationship where you can openly talk about such things.—u/needsmoreusername
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I caught my ex sexting a chick and telling her how he missed her on my birthday. I was young at the time and reacting with crying and yelling. If it ever happened now I would just get up and leave. No point in trying to mend the relationship because its near impossible to gain the trust that was lost.—u/spasamsd
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I had some really good friends in the next town over where my girlfriend lived, and they figured it out for me. They were super gentle about it, and patient with me through my denial.—u/ickyspinface
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A friend of mine was suspicious of her husband cheating, as he went to “play soccer with friends” way too often. He always came already showered as he would sweat playing. One day she sewed his soccer socks together, and when he came back all showered she saw the socks were still sewed, so he wasn’t playing soccer at all.—u/imarangatu
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I owned a house with my fiancé. I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in… I found him with another woman in bed. That bed happened to be my childhood bed.
He forced me out of the room… literally grabbed me by the neck and pushed me out and closed the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away. His dad showed up and another fight broke out. I ended up leaving and staying at his parents until dawn.
I moved out that weekend and let the house foreclose. 9 years later.. it’s finally off my credit report, I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.—u/dddallasss
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I found a used condom on the bathroom floor. I just emailed him a 30 day end of tenancy notice. (I own the house.)—u/Khayeth
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I found out he had signed up for a bunch of apps. Such as Ashley Madison, Tinder, and Bumble. He would messages mutual acquaintances asking if they’d be up for massages, etc.
I blamed myself for years that he wasn’t interested in sex with me because I’d had a baby and gained a little weight. Nope. He just enjoyed contacting other woman for sex more..
We’re in the middle of our divorce now. He doesn’t understand why I’m wrecking our marriage because of a few indiscretions.—u/Compulsive-Gremlin
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He took a phone call from her in front of me and because, I guess, he thought he was being slick, he started flirting with her in front of me. He ended up sexually harassing me after the relationship was over and I got him in hot water for that.
He never did it again and was told if he even talked to me again, he’d get fired. I ended up leaving that job a few months later.—u/aliveinjoburg2
