There’s a tipping point on every date where you either realize this was totally worth your time, or that it was a massive mistake. But most people go into these situations hoping for the best, so spotting, or acknowledging, those red flags can take a little bit of time.
Taking a journey through their own crappy dates, Redditors have been dishing on what those turning points were for them — the ones that made them realize they never should have gone on the date in the first place, anyway. Answering the question:
Of course, what is one person’s red flag might be another’s turn on, but for the most part, these recollections might leave you saying “yikes” and shutting down that Tinder app for at least a few days.
1.
When his phone homescreen and screen saver was of his “ex girlfriend.”
2.
When at the party I met her at and her boyfriend said “Go ahead, take her. I’m sick of her shit.”
3.
When he bit my forearm really hard after smelling the perfume on my wrist.
4.
He said “you’re not pretty enough for me, but maybe you’re freaky to make up for it.”
5.
When she told me she wanted to dine and dash, pretty much as soon as we ordered drinks.
6.
When he picked me up and said he had a stop to make first. He met his crack dealer behind a gas station.
7.
When he read me poetry he wrote about his ex and showed me his viagra stash…We had just met maybe 30 minutes before.
8.
When the guy that showed up was easily 30 years older than what he looked like in the picture he had sent me.
9.
when she told me she believed she was the reincarnation of 17th century pirate Anne Bonny and was completely serious about it.
10.
When he walked in to the café we were meeting at with a 4L jug of water, plopped it on the counter, and told the barista to use his special filtered water for the tea he was ordering.
11.
That time when I walked into the restaurant where I was meeting that “Dr.” I met online, and he was there wearing a white lab coat….to dinner…our first (and last) date.
12.
When she told me my English accent was dumb, and then repeatedly shouted out that everyone else in the bar had a dumb English accent. FYI, it was a bar in England.
13.
When he didn’t let me look at a menu, ordered for me (a water and a kids chicken tender meal- I’m 24), ate half my meal, and was talking so much about himself he spit pieces of chicken at/ on me.
14.
When she told me she recently celebrated 100 days of being sober and then suggested we buy some coke. She told me not to worry about it because she had done it a few times since celebrating those 100 days.
15.
She was a kleptomaniac. Thought she was exaggerating or maybe just went through a tough time. Then she showed me the pile of legal paperwork. She was on 1st name terms with the judge she had been to court so many times.
16.
When he said he was actually from an entirely different state, looked completely different from his photos and then asked if he could borrow $400 for Methadone before we even ordered. I left immediately. Been stalking me for over ten years. Fun times.
17.
I went to his house to play Magic after meeting him at my LGS a couple times, excused myself to pee and as I was peeing, he stood outside of the bathroom door and did an awful impression of the joker laugh while saying he’s been waiting for someone like me and other extremely creepy phrases about how I am “perfect for him.” The post peeing bathroom exit was so absolutely awkward.
18.
Had a great time at dinner, and went for a walk through a park afterwards. We’re walking along and talking and she mentions to me that she is still “technically” engaged to a guy, but she was only marrying him because he had gotten her pregnant. But she had had a miscarriage a few days ago (had not told him yet), and now that there was no baby and she had met me she was going to tell him and break up with him. There was no second date.
19.
Meet a girl at a bar and things clicked well. Went on a date a few nights later and she shows up with her “sister”. I didn’t think anything of it at the time. Figured she was being safe possibly since we just met. But this happened two more times. I finally said can we go out without your sister and she seemed insulted at the idea. Found out months later she had no sister, it was just her friend and they did everything together. Was truly strange.
20.
My mom met a nice girl during the day, unknown to me. My mom and I were supposed to go out for dinner that night. She invites the girl, unknown to me, then ditches the dinner once she knows she has set me up on a date. My mom was very worried I was gay at the time. The girl and I get to chatting over drinks, she’s fun, flirty, cute – and a meth-addicted prostitute who thought it was some weird kink game that she was being hired to get into the middle of. So…YEA. She was understanding when we realized the mix-up, but I gave my mom shit for that one for years.
21.
While perusing the menu he asked what I was going to get. I said “um, I’m thinking about” and he cut me off to say “They don’t have UM here”. I chuckled and continued “So I think I’ll have the uh chicken”. He responded seriously with a raised voice “They don’t have UH CHICKEN here either” and shook his head like I was annoying. I just stared at him for a minute.