Patricia Grisafi
Meeting new people can be both exciting and stressful at the same time. But it’s usually pretty easy to figure out whether or not you’re going to make a connection based on how the conversation flows. You might start talking and the person you’re conversing with starts name-dropping in an obnoxious way. Or maybe they keep picking up their phone and ignoring you. For some people, these are cues that maybe you’re not going to be friends.
On Reddit, people are sharing what the biggest turn off is when they are talking to someone new — and to be honest, these are all pretty good red flags.
1. Pretending To Listen
“When they pretend to listen, but don’t make the least effort to make it convincing.” — Any_Weird_8686
2. Talking At You
“When they talk at you and don’t leave you with an opportunity to speak in between topics.” — 1122Sl110
3. Showing Off
“Trying to impress me with money or discussions of things they buy with their money when they are clearly attempting to show off that they have a lot. Same thing with connections, like great, you know an important person. These always seem like thinly veiled attempts to cover up feelings of ineptitude, lack of true friends, or just inferiority complex in general.” — Rod_N_Todd
4. Insults
“Random out-of-left-field insults/putdowns.” — 12amSkulker
5. Can’t Get Off Social Media
“Inability to disconnect from social media for even a short period of time.” — KAPSLOCKisON
6. Interrupting You
“When they keep interrupting you.” — mutinybligh
7. Drama
“Someone who just feeds off drama. Like doesn’t talk about anything else but things that are going on with other people. I’m trying to get to know you, not some random sorority girl and what she did last weekend.” — soonimaru
8. Rudeness
“Rudeness to others.” — ECS420
9. No Give And Take
“They don’t give and take in the conversation. They don’t reciprocate the questions I’m asking them.” — buttsofglory
10. No Sense Of Humor
“No sense of humor would be tough to get past.” — jrc83
11. Bringing Up An Ex
“Bringing up an ex more than a few times.” — beanburrito4197
12. Cutting You Off
“When they keep interrupting you while you’re trying to speak. Especially when you get asked a question and before you can answer they either ask another one or interject something completely irrelevant.” — kevinthegeek21
13. One-Word Answers
“A complete lack of ability to have a conversation. Like one word answers or thinking lol is a response. Another bad one is the one-uppers or people that are clearing bragging so hard they are lying.” — Alias_Unavailable
14. Being Weirdly Specific
“If they immediately start talking about their ideal partner in great detail, being really specific about who this person should be and the things they should like and be into, especially when this includes how this person should be in the bedroom – what they should do and like doing.” — Environmental_Foot54
15. Gossiping
“When they start the conversation with a gossip. An example is my experience with this woman in my daughter’s preschool (before the pandemic) who would start a conversation about this/that person, anyone she knows that I knew nothing about, and she claims she has ‘connections’ with certain ‘well known’ people. Really off-putting, and it was just the first week of classes.” — stillyou1122
16. Know-It-Alls
“When they’re an expert on everything.” — Stanstudly
17. Being Judgey
“Super specific, but I hate it when people give me a weird look or comments when I tell them about my special interests. It’s hard for me to open up about my interests because of that exact reason.” — -cucumberbitch-
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