Nate Armbruster
A mom recently drew criticism over her decision to let her 5-year-old daughter bleach her hair.
In the now-viral video, Demi Lucy May Engemann and her daughter Maude had a ‘girl’s day’ which included a trip to the salon.
Engemann explains in her video that she allowed Maude to get highlights in her hair after she had asked to “bleach her hair so she could put pink in it”.
TikToker Demi Lucy May Engemann posted a video of her and her daughter Maude’s hair appointment
The viral clip shows how she let her five-year-old daughter bleach her hair blonde
The two had a ‘girls day’ together, and she even let her daughter skip school for the day
At the end of the video, Maude’s father sees his daughter’s new hair color. Demi says at first he “didn’t recognize” his daughter.
You Can View The Full Video Here:
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She also posted a few before-and-after videos of Maude and her new hair color
Commenters had a lot to say. Some responded in support of the mother, but others criticized her decision to let her 5-year-old daughter bleach her hair
Demi addressed the folks criticizing her in a follow-up video
I’m honestly exhausted from commenting back to mom shamers and trolls in the comments. That’s never okay. You can disagree, that’s fine. But the minute that name calling starts or mom shaming starts based on one decision that you disagree with – that’s where I’m going to put an end to that.
Here’s What She Said:
I wanted to give kind of a backstory of why she decided she wanted to bleach her hair. So she came home from school one day and told me that she had a friend who had purple in her hair, and she was just really excited. She’s super into unicorns right now and Barbies. And she said that she wanted to have a color in her hair.
So we went to the store, and we got a temporary pink shampoo. We washed it in her hair, and she was super excited but then after a couple of days, she was like, “I can’t see it, it’s not showing up like my friend’s”.
I explained to her that the reason her friends were showing up so potent was that she had blonde hair. And that’s when she expressed to me that she wanted to put blonde in her hair so that the color would show up better.
I ran it by her dad to make sure that he would be okay with that because I know that it’s kind of a controversial decision. And he agreed that as long as we did it right, took her to a professional, and just did it properly, that would be fine.
So I scheduled our appointment, and it happens to be a week before our family pictures. So that’s why she doesn’t have pink in her hair yet. So to those of you jumping to conclusions, saying oh, this was my decision, and that I wanted her to be blonde in my family photos, that simply is just not true.
I would never put that on my daughter and make her feel like she needs to change anything about herself. That’s not the type of person I am. That’s not the type of mom that I am. And I would never impose my will onto my daughter.
And I know how sensitive those topics are as a woman, so I can understand where people are coming from, in feeling like if that were the reason that I was doing that, why that would be wrong. But that is simply an assumption. And that is not fair, because that is not what happened.
Ultimately, I posted this video because it was such a special and fun bonding moment with my daughter. And it’s sad that the internet has to turn that into a negative in any way. There are so many kids that are neglected and so many damaged parent-child relationships. So to turn something like this into a negative is really sad. And if you’re a mom out here mom shaming – do better.
You Can View The Follow-Up Video Here:
@demilucymay_ Replying to @christinamariedaniels #greenscreen do what feels right to you as a mom. Period. 🤍
Here’s How Commenters Reacted:
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