25 Women Reveal The Most Brutal Lessons They Learned From Heartbreak


You can love someone with all your heart and they can be perfect for you in every way, but that doesn’t mean that you’re meant to be together. Your goals and future plans have to align in order for a relationship to work, and love alone won’t fix that. –MajesticLilFruitcake


Don’t lose yourself when they hurt you. Don’t become what they are because you’re in pain. Stay above it. Be good, keep loving, remember the good person you are. Don’t let them ruin you. Pugblep


Not to fall in love with someone’s potential. Meet people where they’re at or your expectations will let you down every time. I always say that heartbreaks show you what you want, what you don’t and what you absolutely will not tolerate. There’s always a lesson and room for growth. With each failed relationship I learned to love myself more. Now that I love myself wholly, I’ve found someone who feels the same about themselves…and we’re in turn crazy about each other. That’s what I think the key to a healthy relationship is. Being successful individuals makes for a successful relationship. –stephaniebws


That I never want to feel like I’m someone’s mother, rather than an equal partner. I don’t mind taking the reins here and there, but I’m not in a relationship to parent someone. –novascotia3898


That the phrase “love is blind” isn’t just referring to the fact that you’re idolising the other person but also misinterpreting the situation that you’re in. octoneko


Sometimes, you don’t get an answer. You have to keep going anyway. blahblahbrandi


That it literally, physically hurts as if your heart actually broke. I guess I’ll be ready the next time it happens but man I was legit petrified like I thought I had a heart failure or something. I had no idea I cared about him and loved him this much.

Also that thing about the heart vs. the brain. I actually got mad at my emotions because in my mind I knew a 100% that things were right as they were but my emotions seemed be of a completely different person’s.borukick


Afraid of being alone was all the more reason to be alone. Went through a significant break up in December after a 5yr relationship. I wish we didn’t choose to stay in something that we knew was so deeply codependent and incompatible for that long. My ex isn’t a bad person but we constantly brought out the worst in each other. This breakup has made me look at howunhealthy I am in relationships and how I really need to get my shit together before I even begin to dream about dating again. I’m also really turned off from dating/relationships for the first time in my life. I think I like being single. ee112358


Their faults are not your fault. No matter how much they try to convince you otherwise. You did not break them and you cannot fix them. –Kms5549


When someone shows you who they are, believe them. –CapriciousBea