Getting married is fun because you get to throw a giant party with all your friends and family and it’s filled with booze and dancing. But staying married is a different story. Which is why a lot of marriages end in divorce. It can be boring and hard to spend all your time with one person, not to mention the fact that people tend to change and drift apart over time. The person you married could be a completely different person ten years down the road.
Twitter user Samuel Perry (@socofthesacred) recently asked people who have been married, “what’s the WORST marriage advice you’ve ever received?” and added his own piece of bad advice: “‘Never go to bed angry.’ Sometimes that’s exactly what you should do,” he wrote. “You’re both tired & at your worst! Get some sleep. Wake up. Eat together. See if the argument is still so serious.”
Perry’s tweet racked up nearly 23K likes and over 1.7K comments as people offered their own worst marriage advice.
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A man in our church (who is no longer with us) literally told my husband to be in the church before our wedding, “The secret to a happy marriage is to keep your woman under control is to hit her first thing in the morning so she know who is the boss.”
— Jen Davidson (@JenDavi64358092) August 1, 2020
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That I have to do all the “women’s chores,” (babies, grocery shopping, cooking, dishes, laundry, etc) and Jason has to do the “men’s chores” (taking out the trash and the lawn). In real life, you both pitch in as able and you both take care of the kids.
— Jennifer Michelle Greenberg 🧚🏼 (@JennMGreenberg) August 1, 2020
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Regular date nights. I felt like laughing when I heard that from the pulpit. Sigh. Try to have a date night when you’re raising three kids with special needs.1) you need a special babysitter. 2) they cost more money. 3) No money left for date. We went years without date nights.
— Cindyhc (@Cindyhc7) August 1, 2020
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I once got advice from a Christian marriage counselor that, since men were designed to have more orgasms than women, to just “be prepared for that” 😑 I have found this to be more sociocultural than physiological or even biblical
— Courtney Gale (@ffox_feathers) August 1, 2020
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Newly married here. Someone said recently that we need both sets of parents in our lives and our future kids will need their grandparents. That we need to “suck it up”…..despite the fact that it’s completely toxic to do so.
— Mary Ann Dains (@maryanndains) August 1, 2020
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That it wasn’t a good idea to get married unless we had a big YELLING fight and taken our anger out on each other. We’ve been married over 2 years and still not had a yelling fight. We tend to sit and talk things out as calmly and kindly as we can.
— Faith Boggus (they/she) (@abogguslife) August 2, 2020
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My husband & I don’t want children. About 8 or so years ago, a coworker misconstrued that this was just my husband’s idea. She suggested I stop taking my birth control without telling him, and he’d somehow end up being happy about it when we had a baby. Seriously, WTF??😳😳
— April Skinner (@aprilskinnerNNP) August 1, 2020
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“Don’t have separate bank accounts.”
In our relationship, I’m good w/bills, my wife is good w/household needs.
Accounts are seperated so I don’t pay bills with food money, and she doesn’t buy groceries with the rent money.
May not be for everyone, but it helped us a lot.
— Jeremy (@JeremyLundmark) August 1, 2020
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I told some friends that my husband and I sleep in separate beds because he has insomnia and I’m a light sleeper. Was told our marriage is basically over and not worth salvaging lol we’re stupid happy, going on 9 years, sleeping separately works very well for us
— Coffee Slut (@ArielOfAutumn) August 2, 2020
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The worst advice is, “happy wife, happy life.” This is a partnership and we should both be working and sacrificing for each other’s happiness.
— EBM-F (@4thhowardson) August 1, 2020