Patricia Grisafi
Do you have a friend who is absolutely convinced they are the best at something when it’s an open secret that they are not? And everyone just keeps propping this person up because for them to find out the truth would totally demolish their sense of self? And they’re kind of a terrible person to boot?
One Redditor is sparing no details in the story of how she called out an ex-lover for being the absolute worst at sex—even though this guy has built a reputation on being a womanizer and Don Juan character. Did she go too far breaking the hard truth about his prowess in front of their mutual friends?
The OP explains that one of her friends, Jack, is “always going on about how many girls he’s been with and how high his body count is.” She lived with him in a house share for a while, and “whenever he bought a girl home, he’d make sure to parade her around by introducing her, spend 15-20mins in his room having sex, then come out and strut around naked or in his boxers.”
He sounds just lovely!
“This behaviour was pretty common for him and even though he was an almighty douche, we were still friends. Anyway after about 8 months of living together, after a drunken night, me and Jack ended up in bed together. Honestly it was terrible and having slept with him I realised something. Jack had a big dick (which I knew because of his strutting), but he thought that having a big dick automatically meant he was good at sex. Like it just immediately made him amazing in bed. Our sex was shit, like hands down the worst sex I’d ever had. No foreplay, he left lights and tv on, then unceremoniously shoved himself inside me. The whole thing was basically a race for him to get inside me as quickly as possible. Maybe 10 minutes of uncomfortable jackhammering then he was done.”
The OP explains that their crappy sex encounter happened years ago, and now she is married. However, “even after all this time, Jack is still the same lad he was and still f*cks girls like they’re lined up on a conveyor belt for him.”
“Recently, my husband and I hosted a bbq in our garden as gatherings are now allowed. Jack came over as he’s in our mutuals group. Of course after a while Jack starts going on about the girls he’s f*cked, and even showing up another girl at the party by telling people he’d f*cked her. It’s then he turns to me and asks if I can prove to the lads how ‘fire’ he is at sex.”
The OP was slightly embarrassed and also angry at Jack’s behavior, so she “straight up told him he was shit. Basically worst sex I ever had. I then went onto say what happened and that he only has sex just to say that he’s had sex. It wasn’t fun, pleasurable or enjoyable and for the record I didn’t come.”
As if her rant wasn’t incredible enough, two other girls at the party back up the OP, saying their sexual experiences with Jack were basically the same. Jack got mad and left the party. But the OP’s husband was not pleased with how the confrontation went down and called the OP “insensitive” given how deeply Jack relies on his “lad/sex God persona.”
The OP does not agree and thinks it was about time Jack was “called out for being shit in bed.” Maybe, she said, this will wake Jack up and he will try and improve himself.
Redditors quickly shared experiences they had with the “Jacks” in their lives as well as why they had no sympathy for Jack in this situation.
“He sounds like a total jerk and womanizer. It was about time he was put in his place. I’m honestly surprised it didn’t happen sooner and that all of your friend group has even allowed him around this long,” said MyRockySpine.
“I could see the whole “persona” thing as a defence if maybe, MAYBE, he took pride in being a sex positive person who likes to give his partners pleasure and was regarded as a generous lover. But the persona he’s created isn’t even a ‘good’ one, it’s over being an asshole. There’s nothing admirable about the persona he’s trying to convey. He’s shitty and selfish and problematic and like you said, it’s so fucking gross that he objectifies women like this, and then expects them to LIE to make him feel good about himself. Pathetic,” agreed steingrrrl.
“This is the kind of toxic masculinity that needs to be stomped out of men. Speaks volumes that only dudes are standing up for him,” BeastOfMars observed.
“He needed knocking down a peg and honestly for his future relationships (very loosely using that term, sounds like all he has is one night stands) he needed to know. Not to mention the fact that he asked your opinion!! So many women don’t say a single thing when they’re not happy with the sex they’re having, whether it’s because there’s some weird stigma or embarrassment or whatever. It’s about time we said something. Let these idiot men who think they’re gods gift to women know they’re not all that and they need to do more than just put their dick in and out of you for a whole 40 seconds. A lot of women can’t even finish from sex itself and so many guys don’t know that so just don’t bother doing anything else or stop after a few minutes. Guys need to know what women like and even more so what they don’t. And they need to quit getting upset when you tell them it wasn’t good for you. I KNOW they wouldn’t prefer if you faked it because so many whine about women doing that too. We can’t win. I’m very glad the other women stood by you too. You definitely weren’t insensitive.. He asked and he’s never been sensitive to your feelings – crap sex and parading his dick about. Even if you WERE insensitive he needs to grow up and frankly so does your husband. Sex isn’t good if you don’t put some effort in, it’s the way it is. No way or need to sugar coat that in order to not hurt a man’s poor fragile ego,” said emmaheath_mua1.
Folks also pointed out that the husband seems to have picked the wrong person to defend here.
“I knew plenty of Jacks, in fact one of them was actually called Jack and he was absolutely the worst sex I have ever had. He was also a lad who liked to gloat about all the women he had slept with. I was intrigued so I slept with him and it was the worst sex I have ever had, and again for exactly the same reason -he was shit at sex but had a big dick. Jack needed a reality check, and it was his fault for bringing you up. He should have known better. The only reason your husband said you were insensitive is because he can relate – you hit Jack where it hurts all men, right in the sexual performance. Your husband was just feeling second hand shame. Jack deserved it though, some people need a splash of cold water,” said HighQueenOfFillory.
“Jack is TA but so is the husband is also the TA in this situation. Why are you defending a guy that had bad sex with your wife (I know they weren’t together at the time it happened but that’s still a little weird). Not to mention he didn’t say anything when Jack embarrassed you in front of company,” said Boardman3000.
What do you think? Was the OP insensitive or did Jack need a rude awakening?
