Patricia Grisafi
When you’re in labor, you need support. Like, a whole army of support. It’s a stressful, exciting, painful, and surreal moment in your life. If you’re lucky, you have a birth partner who is nurturing and takes your pain and fear seriously and tries to help you. Unfortunately, one woman on Reddit had a husband who just made quips about how he was so happy that the pregnancy was over because his wife had been a mess. Was she wrong to boot him out of the delivery room?
“My husband (34M) and me (32F) just had our first child today. We were in the delivery room together, all was going well, I was in a lot of pain, but he was really supportive. The midwife was asking us questions about the baby etc in between contractions just to help me ease my mind a little,” the OP writes.
“Then she said if we are excited about the pregnancy being over and I said that yes, because it’s been hard for me. My husband snorted and said ‘for me too, she was so difficult.’ Midwife tried to change the subject, but I asked my husband what the f he means by that, and he said that he is happy it’s over and he will get his wife back and ‘the hormonal mess is over.'”
“I was so hurt and told him to please just leave the room. He said he’s not going anywhere, because his child is being born here. I yelled at him to get the f out and he was pissed of, called me an AH for making him miss his kid’s birth and stormed off. He hasn’t been back to see our daughter, he is supposed to come later today.”
I mean, never insult a woman who is in labor!
“It’s unbelievable the number of posts saying that she should just tolerate whatever he says because watching someone else give birth is a once in a lifetime opportunity for a man. Well, if it means that much to him, he could have behaved himself like a supportive partner and kept his stupid, insulting and demeaning jokes to himself. Pregnancy is hard and any man who can’t give his wife the respect she deserves for what she has done shouldn’t be in the delivery room,” said
“I have 3 kids, the oldest college age. I think hubs needs a reality check on ‘getting his wife back’ and “the hormonal mess being over.” Like, buddy, biology doesn’t just suddenly snap back to how it was before as soon as the baby passes the APGAR. Giving birth is one of the most traumatic things a human body can experience and (usually) survive. She’s going to be healing and physically exhausted, plus trying to regain hormonal/mental/emotional balance for weeks at least. Never mind that neither of you are going to be getting a good night’s sleep for a while. Please remain seated until the ride has come to a complete stop (about 18 years from now). This isn’t about him. He might’ve more or less supported OP through it, but seems to forget she’s the one who actually had to experience it firsthand,” noted
“OP’s husband must not know anything about women’s bodies after giving birth. The ‘hormonal mess’ won’t be over for QUITE a while. He’ll need to buckle up for the ride or get outta there permanently,” explained
“NTA. You just grew a human! You just birthed a human! He had an orgasm and held your hand. In no way are those comparable efforts. He said something cruel, inexcusable, and wrong. He has a lot of apologizing and behavior change ahead. Insist on counseling, because that was an awful thing to say! I hope there is someone you can call, I’m so sorry this happened to you,” said
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