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11.
I am 28 years old at the time of this story. A friend of mine who does the light-bullying thing as his main personality trait would regularly come over to have a break from his wife and kids (his homemaker-wife does the bare minimum and he essentially both makes the income and keeps up with every chore, his need to get away is legitimate). I give him a lot of freedom, such as being able to change the thermostat and eating whatever food he wants without needing permission; this kind of welcome was, I thought, met with respect in return (but I was clearly mistaken).
One day he is using the television to play music while he looks at memes on his phone, the next song comes on and he mildly doesn’t like it but my wife says out loud “Oh I love this song!”. He changes the song anyway and says “No one cares what you like.”
It’s not the roughest thing he’s ever said, but in a situation like this, it’s always a joke, just a mean absurdity. It would follow that he change the song back and laugh, because clearly he didn’t mean that. It’s just the light-bullying to show affection. But he didn’t turn it back. I was in the other room preparing food for everyone and was waiting for my wife’s song to play for almost 20 seconds or so before leaning past the wall to look at him:
Him: What?
Me: You know what, change the song back.
Him: Nah I don’t like that song.
Me: Oh word?
Him: Yeah I’m just not in the mood for it.
Me: Oh, cool, well then. Go home.
Him: Huh?
Me: Yeah get outta here with that bullsh—t. Go home.
(And he did, I haven’t spoken to him since.)
I thought it was so out of character for him, he was always trying to lecture me on how I was immature for how I handled my relationship, he has big issues with people getting too comfortable too quickly in his home, legitimately everything that happened is against everything he’s ever talked about in his home and about his family.
But the more I thought about it? I let him feel like my house was his man cave. He started taking advantage of my kindness and saw it as me giving him a second house to control. My wife is very nice and sweet, but I knew he somewhat resented her because instead of hanging out with him almost 7 days a week like before, I spent more time with her now. Even though he had access to my home to hang out 4-5 times a week, he blamed her for why I don’t go out and chill anymore (it was actually my new job’s fault, not hers). I think he was slowly trying to manipulate me into resenting her with him, but I was unaware of that because it absolutely wasn’t working. I think he saw that night as me choosing her over our friendship, and I absolutely would choose her over him any day, but it was definitely more about being a dick to the group as if he thought he was the leader or more important member.
This was longer than I intended, my sorries. —koreiryuu
12.
At my sons first birthday party, my stepmom’s mother (who wasn’t even invited) made the comment, “Your wife says she isn’t materialistic, but you sure have a lot of stuff.” We were living in a small two bedroom apartment and my sons room (which had toys and other presents) was also my office and the only storage we had. —ShieldOfZeus85
13.
I invited a former college classmate to come and stay at my house when I found out he was homeless. I knew he had issues with drinking but was not aware that he had come to include other addictions. It was late in the evening when I picked him up and brought him home. I showed him is room, the bathroom, told him to help himself to anything in the fridge.
Less than 2 hours later I woke up to the smoke alarm going off. I guess he had decided to smoke some benadryl that was in the medicine cabinet. I’m not really sure what went on, but he scorched my coffee table and a small patch of laminate flooring plus he burned/melted a spot in my area rug big enough that I had to replace it. He also broke my favourite glass and for some reason that still baffles me, smashed the remote for my TV into several pieces. Needless to say, I had to show him the door. The next day I told him he needed to go to the addictions clinic at the hospital and tell them he needed help because he was a danger to himself and others. —Moos_Mumsy
14.
Wasn’t home when this happened but some family friend I’ve never met and their kid comes over one afternoon. Kid gets bored and decided it’s a great idea to disassemble every LEGO build I’ve kept over the last 10 years. Almost everything was built from imagination so no instructions to rebuild again. I was devastated when I got home seeing LEGO pieces spread across the entire floor of my room. —Airpotbai
15.
Ate my Go-Gurts I had in the fridge for bad days while I was recovering from a major spinal surgery, encouraged the other guests to join in, hogged the sofa which I needed to sleep on since my back couldn’t handle the floor (again, still very much in recovery from a major surgery), refused to give up spot on said sofa, acted offended when I left the room to sleep on another sofa, didn’t flush the toilet, almost broke my laptop doing something I told her not to do because it could break my laptop.
No matter how much you’ve missed your friends while spending over a month in recovery, do not invite them over for a sleepover when you’re still in a lot of pain. Also just don’t invite assholes. —maximumovarize
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My aunt took a sh—t in the bathroom (a given, considering we were having a bbq) but instead of throwing the used tissue in the toilet or even the bin, she put it inside the bathtub. i told my mom, who put her on blast in front of the whole fam. She doesn’t come to the cookouts anymore. —falselymiranda
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This was technically in a dorm room, not a real home, but I had the audacity to wake up my roommate’s boyfriend by walking into my room, where he was asleep at 3 in the afternoon, and he immediately launched into a political argument with me —threebakedpotatoes
18.
Not my house but my car. I don’t have many rules for passengers when I’m driving but there are two I will never budge on.
1: Wear your seat belt.
2: Do not smoke in my car.I had just bought a car, it wasn’t brand new but I knew the previous (and only) owner and I knew he was a car guy who took meticulous care of his cars inside and out. He wouldn’t even sell me the car before he had given the engine a proper service. Within a week of getting the car a friend asked for a lift to the train station, I knew he smoked so as we walked to the car I told him specifically to wait until we get to the station before he lights up (a 10 minute ride at most).
I back out of the parking spot, drive to the exit of the parking lot and as I check my left hand side for oncoming cars I hear from my right the distinctive sound of a lighter sparking up. Dude could not even f—king wait until we were out of the f—king car park before he just had to have his goddamn cigarette. I ask him what the hell he thinks he’s doing and he just looks at me and says “Relax, it’s not like it’s a new car.” F—ker ended up walking to the train station. —ConstableBlimeyChips
19.
Back in 2016 my husband’s close friend visited for awhile while I was recovering from a hospital visit. She loves to cook, and her food is good, but during the course of her visit she rearranged my kitchen.
She is nearly a foot taller than me so I ended up having to pull out the step stool so I could reach things. I put everything back as soon as I was on my feet again.
She’s not invited back after her last visit when she was rude to my face. But it’s the rearranging of my kitchen that got under my skin the most. You don’t live here – who do you think you are!? —nebbeundersea
20.
Last weekend I spent all day cooking for all my friends. I slow cooked chicken all day, made fresh salsa and guac, etc. We all got drunk and ate. I putt everything away so I could save it for meals later. I’m poor so it was supposed to feed me for a bit.
Well after I went to bed, this f—king c—t took the food out to make tacos and didn’t put it away. So I had to throw away all the food I spent all day cooking I’m still pissed and getting mad just writing this —Koolaid67
