Cheating is rough on the unsuspecting party. They go through an entire rainbow of emotions — and that’s before it’s even confirmed! The actual revelation and confirmation have to be so painful. just the thought of cheating — the act, the discovery, all of it. — makes me deeply sad. I hope no one has to feel that, ever.
u/DEDCMDM94 over on Reddit asked “What is your ‘accidentally caught your spouse cheating’ horror story?” and the thread quickly went viral; the BuzzFeed Community also chimed in with some terrible stories. We gathered some of the best replies and left them below for you to cringe your way through.
1. Nasty
“My husband had been really nasty to me recently, and we got into a huge fight the night before he went on a business trip. By morning we had sort of made up, but I was still salty. He always texts me to tell me when his plane lands and normally I respond, but I was still so mad, I decided to ignore him. I had never done that before, so he called me to ask what was wrong. I said, ‘Right now, I’m as mad at you as I’ve ever been.’ He mistakenly assumed I had found out about the multiple online affairs he was having and accidentally blurted everything out.”—dmcm16
2. New baby
“I saw his mum post a picture of her new grandchild on Facebook. The kid sure as hell didn’t come from my vagina.”—u/FruitGoose
3. One Step
“I found my wife’s notebook, and written on the first page was a 10-step plan detailing how she was going to leave me for another guy. I turned it into one step.”—u/decorama
4. Christmas Day
“I woke up on Christmas day to my partner’s alarm going off. He was the type to have 17 alarms set five minutes apart to make sure he got out of bed. I went into his phone to turn them all off and saw a message preview from his baby mama that was a bit too flirty. I checked and he’d been sleeping with her for a month, including the day before (Christmas eve), while I was at home with his parents and their child, preparing Christmas dinner and he was ‘working.'”—vicko_ups
5. Not my brand
“My brother discovered a condom inside his fiancé. It wasn’t the type he uses.”—u/brantstephenson
6. New cell, who dis?
“My husband changed from our cellphone plan to hers. Verizon sent me an email confirming the change and the account his line was added to, which included her name. I asked him, and he lied. I looked her up on Facebook, and it turned out they had just celebrated their two-year dating anniversary. We had just celebrated eight years of marriage.”—u/cowgirltu
7. FedEx
“I guess I wasn’t supposed to be home. FedEx delivered two tickets to Vegas right to the house. The tickets had her name and some other dude’s name.”—u/Kraygfu
8. Surprise!
“My mom’s best friend went to have lunch with one of her friends from church choir to meet that woman’s new boyfriend. Surprise — it was my boyfriend.”—u/DearMissWaite
9. Threesome
“My boyfriend finally convinced me to have a threesome after months of begging, so we had a mutual friend come over. Things got hot and heavy, and when he started fucking her, he moaned, ‘Damn, you feel even better than usual!’ Everyone froze. He tried to tell me that he was thinking about me while fucking her and that it just felt different, but she felt so guilty that she confessed on the spot and begged me to forgive her. We don’t really talk anymore, but last I heard she had been dating my ex for over a year.”—u/Freyja_1995-bitch
10. Distant, texts
“My husband of 15 years had seemed distant, but also had been incredibly busy with work. He was out of town a lot and frequently fielding phone calls/texts. We were on vacation with another family (my friend, her husband, and her kids who were the same age as mine). My friend (also a neighbor) hadn’t been nice to me lately either. I felt uncomfortable with her, but we’d had this trip planned for a year. She and my husband a couple times both disappeared at the same time for about an hour or two, couldn’t be reached, and coincidentally would come back within 20 minutes of each other. They were jogging, left their phone, etc. I got suspicious after the second time and went into my husband’s phone. I saw all their ‘I love you’ texts with each other. The trip was over Valentine’s Day, and was also to celebrate our anniversaries. Seeing their ‘Happy Valentines Day’ texts to each other was incredibly difficult.””They’d been having an affair for over a year. They were even having an affair when my husband planned and booked the family trip together. A lot of the texts he received throughout the day and evening were actually her (not work). We’re all divorced now, and they’re still together.”—bookmarkqueen77
11. Pics and nudes
“My girlfriend accidentally ran over her phone and destroyed the screen. She asked me to backup all her stuff and transfer it to her new Pixel. I used the backup tool and saw all sorts of dirty messages and nudes sent to another guy.”—u/toronto_programmer
12. More phone revelations
“While on family vacation, I picked up his phone because I was bored and the kids were playing on mine. I saw a message to some girl describing the sex he and I had had the night before. We spent the rest of the vacation fighting via text while trying (and failing) to act normal.”—u/Impressive_Molasses
13. Came home early
“I came back from a trip four hours early. My wife was supposed to be at work still. I opened the front door to see her sitting topless on the couch making out with a coworker. He ran out the door and she ran into a bathroom and locked the door.”—u/NovaPokeDad
14. TOLD PEOPLE
“My girlfriend of four years cheated on me with several people, and then TOLD all our mutual acquaintances she did it. But she told them she and I were in an open relationship and that I knew about everything and was fine with it. I found out months after the fact when a friend mentioned my ‘open relationship’ that I had no memory of entering.”—blek98
15. Jeez, what’s with the Christmas reveals
“On Christmas Eve, I got onto the computer to find a photo for a last-minute gift — an ornament with a family photo. Instead, I found a love letter to her from some guy at the gym. I kept looking and found tons more.”—u/pro_nosepicker
16. Pokemon Go
“I caught my ex thanks to Pokémon Go, of all things. She mentioned that Pokémon Go was using a lot of her data. I explained that she could go to her settings to see how much data apps were using. I proceeded to show her how to check and then proved to her that Pokémon Go wasn’t the problem by pointing out Tinder was using way more data.”—u/OfficeOrnament
17. Anonymous letter
“One day, I received an anonymous letter that stated my boyfriend of seven years was seeing another woman. The letter claimed to be sent by a different woman that he was also seeing. I confronted him, and of course, he denied. I checked his emails and found Google messages from a third woman. I found out he was cheating with three different women for five years.”—u/Grimkins
18. Well, no
“I had a long-distance boyfriend. We saw each other when we could and we were waiting for things to align so we could move in together. This last Valentine’s Day, he made a big list announcement on Facebook, and part of it mentioned that he had gotten engaged the previous March. I cut off all communication then and there.”—aquifer_808
19. Accidental photo
“My ex-wife was FaceTiming her boyfriend while topless and took a screenshot to send to him as a keepsake. Problem was, she accidentally sent it to me.”
20. Best landlord
“It’s so classic and pathetic, but I found long blonde hairs in our bed. I’m a short-haired brunette, and he had a buzzcut. When confronted, he shrugged and said, ‘Well, what are you gonna do about it, anyway? Dump me? You can’t. We have a shared lease, so suck it up.’ Guess who got dumped the very same day with the help of a very understanding and outraged landlord who rescinded the lease?”—u/herissonberserk