A man’s “Am I the Assh*le” post is going viral on Reddit and Twitter after he was decidedly voted to be “the a**hole.”
The man consulted Reddit after shredding his fiancé’s prom picture becuase he “got tired of hearing her talk about happy times with someone else” and “figured she didn’t really need the old memories anymore.” Needless to say, readers were astonished OP could act this way and not see he was obviously TA.
OP began his story by calling his fiancé’s box of memories from her childhood and adolescence “hoarding,” so he wasn’t off to a great start.
“So, my fiancé’s kept a box over the years of memories and stuff she has. She’s been collecting memories in it since she was like 10. Cute, I guess. Seems more like hoarding to me, but if she likes it, I like it.
She’s told me it’s very private and I’m not allowed to go through it unless she wants me to. I’ve probably only seen things in it like 3 times ever.
However, I came upstairs a couple days ago and she was on the floor, looking through it. She hears me come in, and she turns around all excited, and tells me to look, showing me a picture she’d forgotten existed.
It’s her at prom when she was 15. She’s in this pale, yellow dress and she’s cuddled up against some guy in a blue suit, with his tie matching her dress. They’re both beaming in the picture and it’s got a banner over the top saying ‘PROM 2007’.
She rubs the picture fondly, like it’s some dead relative and says something about how much she loves it.
I thought it was pretty rude because I’m standing there and she’s telling me about how much she loved going on a date with another guy. I told her that kind of hurts my feelings and she laughed and says ‘I love the picture, not the guy in it’. I said I don’t like hearing her talk about her ex and she goes ‘I was 15, the relationship barely counted. He was a nice guy and it was a nice event, that’s all it is’.
I got tired of hearing her talk about happy times with someone else, so I left the room. She didn’t really get why I was upset, but she dropped it and I guess it was over.
She went out the other day (not breaching lockdown), and I came across the box again in our cupboard. I figured she didn’t really need the old memories anymore, so I took out the Prom picture and I ran it through our shredder. No big deal.”
OP’s fiancé was obviously ecstatic to find the old photo, which OP called “pretty rude,” but he didn’t think it was “rude” to shred her fond memory.
“She comes back home, comes into the room, and immediately asks me why the shredder is plugged in, seeing as we barely use it. I told her I was just tossing away old junk that we don’t need.
And she asks me what exactly I tossed away and I told her old pictures and stuff. So, she opens the shredder and starts taking out strands of the picture and she turns to me and starts yelling ‘Did you shred my Prom picture?’
And so, she runs over to the cupboard and starts digging through the box and throws the whole thing on the floor when she finds it gone. And she’s all teary now and she’s yelling at me asking me why I did it and saying that the guy didn’t really mean anything to her anymore.
If he didn’t mean anything to her, she doesn’t need reminders of him.
She tidied up the mess she made and now she’s gone and put a lock on the box and called me ‘impossibly selfish’.
She’s been refusing to cook for me and do stuff now, telling me that she’ll take me seriously when I apologise for what I’ve done.
Okay, sure, I shouldn’t have gone through her box, but I didn’t do anything. She’s basically just keeping junk around for nothing. I did her a favour.
So, seeing as it’s such a big deal now, AITA?”
And in conclusion, readers gave OP a big “YTA” and OP is no longer getting married.
“Update: So we’re not getting married. Hope y’all are happy. I’m not, and never was abusive. Fuck off, stop DMing me.”
Readers unapologetically laid into OP for his “abusive” reaction.
In addition to voting “YTA,” readers thought it was suspect OP didn’t care about memories from when they were younger.
Many readers hoped OP’s fiancé would dump him after this.
“This guy is a controlling socio freak. The way he words things literall just screams ‘her life belongs to me.’ Christ I hope she runs far, far away,” one user wrote.
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