One woman on Twitter is catching some serious heat after posting a tweet meant to signal how “not like other girls” she is by promising to take care of her hypothetical future husband.
call me old fashioned, but i was raised to take care of my husband
make his plate every night, wash his work clothes for him, make sure he’s up for work the next morning, always have a clean house for him to come home to, etc.
and that’s exactly wife i will be
— brylea kay (@bryleakayy) June 11, 2019
“Call me old fashioned,” wrote @brylealangley, “but I was raised to take care of my husband. Make his plate every night, wash his work clothes for him, make sure he’s up for work the next morning, always have a clean house for him to come home to, etc. And that’s exactly (the) wife I will be.”
Now, everyone has the freedom to choose their relationship dynamic. But it’s one thing to choose to be a stay-at-home wife and to genuinely enjoy domestic duties, and quite another to (hypothetically) (!!!) tweet about it implying that you are somehow ‘better’ than women who do otherwise.
The immediate response on Twitter was overwhelmingly “ma’am, are you alright?” as dozens suggested Brylea Kay may be suffering from a severe case of internalized misogyny.
— rey (@dayofdasein) June 12, 2019
— puke ellington the second (@mariahhpapaya1) June 12, 2019
Translation: I’ve never had an orgasm
— Jessie Pridemore (@jessiepridemore) June 12, 2019
The notion of a wife parenting her husband is not a popular one on this platform, as we’ve learned time and time again.
So you were raised to parent your husband
— peaches and meme✨ (@Brivado) June 12, 2019
You gonna change his diapers too?
— Sparrow (@Sparrows_Way) June 11, 2019
replace husband with “dog” or “son” and this would still make sense and i think there may be a problem there idk tho
— Katherine Pritchard (@radkat17) June 12, 2019
one kids menu for ur husband and one margarita for the headache pic.twitter.com/PkeIFiglbV
— timmy b (@fatimah8arokah) June 12, 2019
Call me progressive but I would take being single any day over having to raise my husband ♀️
— (@autreysound) June 12, 2019
You won’t need children then because it sounds like you’ll already be looking after one
— Ben (@The_Benenen) June 12, 2019
Brylea the thing you’re describing is being a mom
— Eliot (@EliotETC) June 12, 2019
I can’t get over “making sure he’s up for work”….
— athena (@athenatakla) June 11, 2019
One woman even weighed in about how this approach simply “doesn’t work” because it becomes “expected of you and then you just become the house skivvy.”
Hen I did all this…. it doesn’t work. It becomes “expected” of you and then you just become the house skivvy…. I left.
— (@scouseweegian) June 12, 2019
Others pointed out that a healthy relationship is a give and take sort of a thing, not a “catering” sort of thing.
There ain’t nothing wrong with wanting to fully take care of a future husband—there’s plenty wrong with attaching “old-fashioned” gender roles in a bid to feel supreme to other women.
I’ve been married 30 years. Marriage is a partnership, with give and take and mutual respect for each other, not one person catering to the other. Think about the model you’re setting for your daughters.
— LiberalLinda (@LSoudek) June 11, 2019
Nothing wrong with this st all if you’re a stay at home wife. But if you work too, I feel like the chores should totally be 50/50
— jason (@ruggeddonut) June 11, 2019
I take care of my boyfriend since we live together, but I’m not trying to be his momma. We do all the chores together and we get up together. He’s a grown man. He knows I take care of him, but he knows he needs to take care of himself. If he works, I work. That’s how it is now.
— Codi (@codi_ann_25_) June 11, 2019
Depends who’s working what hours and when
— ferret gal (@_claudiajay) June 12, 2019
While many were so at loss for words, they could only muster reaction gifs.
— Maky Karolyna (@Its_Maky_Bitch) June 12, 2019
— emmy (@EmilyAnagnoston) June 11, 2019
— ichBinEinHurenSohn (@mareannagrace) June 12, 2019
— Kolby LA (@kvlbxla) June 11, 2019
— Shannon Ⓥ (@Shan_Mixhelle) June 12, 2019
Good luck to Brylea, who will certainly have no trouble at all finding a husband who wants the type of wife she was raised to be.