Guy Wants To Know If He's Wrong For Not Wanting To Attend His Sister's Wedding Because Of Her Ridiculous Requirements

Some brides get a little too hung up on even the tiniest of details on their wedding day.

When people dream about their wedding, they usually don’t include potential drama in the scenario. You don’t know how it’ll go until the date is near. The same goes for siblings of the bride and groom.

We’ve discussed many stories about “bridezillas” over the years, but this one’s a first for us. This guy’s sister placed pretty unreasonably specific “requirements” for guests and now he doesn’t want to go.

An email was sent out to everyone invited to the wedding with “attendance requirements”

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In the case of this man’s sister, she became the ultimate bridezilla so he refused to attend the wedding. Now he’s turned to the popular subreddit “Am I The A**hole?” (AITA) to find out if he was wrong for how he reacted. Here’s what he said:

WIBTA for not going to my sister’s wedding because of the ridiculous “requirements”

OP Explains:

So, I’m in the middle of a shitstorm and need some advice on if I’m wrong.

My sister is getting married in less than 3 weeks. I haven’t been involved in the planning as I have my own life but from what my mom has relaid to me it’s been a nightmare. My sister wants a “fancy” wedding and is micro-managing everything.

I have no idea how normal this is but from what I’ve heard she broke down crying when her fiance bought the wrong shade of white napkins. She and both my and the groom’s parents have invested a lot of money into this to the tune of over 50k.

In my opinion, I think the whole ordeal is ridiculous but it’s not really my place to say anything. At least until yesterday. An email was sent out to everyone invited to the wedding with “attendance requirements”. These requirements were a joke. Some of them were just nonsensical like what color ties are and aren’t allowed or that no one can talk to the wife or groom alone.

But some were absurd like the fact that no one is supposed to take pictures except the photographer for the whole event, no facial hair will be allowed or you will not be pictured, or that any woman with shoulder length or longer hair must have it cut or wear it in a ponytail. The worst though was the “gift requirements”. According to the email, a gift of 300$ value or more MUST be given (or $250 cash) or you will not be allowed into the venue.

The email also ends with “Those who choose not to follow these rules will be asked to leave. Please think of the bride and groom’s wishes during this stressful time”

This is a joke, right? Like I can understand micromanaging but that’s just absurd. I called my mom to make sure this was not a late April fools joke and it was real. I told her that I won’t be going because of this. That was wrong apparently because my sister has been blowing me up saying that I’m being selfish and that I’m ruining “her day.” My parents agree with her and say I’m being an asshole. My parents have told me that they will pay for my gift but I still think that all of these rules are a joke.