Staying with the in-laws can be difficult for a number of reasons. Maybe they’re slobs. Maybe they are too into your business. Maybe they refuse to accept that Donald Trump is no longer president.
According to one Redditor, in-laws also might refuse to let you and your husband occupy the same bed.
The OP starts by saying that they had a plumbing issue at their house that rendered it uninhabitable until fixed. So, she, her husband, and their two kids were invited to stay at her mother-in-law’s house while repairs went on.
“After dinner we went to put the kids in bed in the pullout couch in their TV room. She stopped us and said ‘if you do that, where will you two be sleeping?’ And my husband looked at her confused. ‘In the guest suite….?'” She looked completely shocked. ‘Under my roof? Absolutely not. You (talking to my husband) can have the guest suite, but she sleeps somewhere else.'”
“My husband sort of laughed in amazement and said, ‘you’re going to make my wife sleep in the living room when there’s a perfectly good queen sized bed for us both?’ His mom all but shuddered, she said, ‘oh my God, why are you even making me think about this? I don’t want to think about my son in bed with a woman!'”
“We’ve been married eight years. At this point I just started to smother a smile. I seriously could not help it. Her face had gone red as a tomato and she looked so genuinely gobsmacked. She asked again ‘What’s funny? What’s so funny to you? Do you have to act like a child about everything?’ So I responded; ‘this is all just a little ridiculous.'”
Then the OP’s mother-in-law stormed out of the room and gave both of them the finger.
She went upstairs and slammed her door. The OP says that that night, her husband slept on the pull-out couch and the OP got the guest suite. Then, they left and went to the OP’s parents’ house the next day.
“His mother has requested an apology from both of us for disrespecting her home, but my husband hasn’t responded to that text and honestly we don’t even know how.”
I don’t even know where to start.
What do Redditors think the OP should do in this very bizarre situation?
“NTA. You have two kids. Where does she think they came from,” laughed dftaylor.
“Your MIL has more issues than National Geographic. Considering that the two of you did wind up following her rules and did wind up not sleeping together while under her roof, you did wind up following her rules. As far as I can see, the only things you could have possibly done to ‘disrespect’ her is that you took the guest suite instead of your husband and then left to stay somewhere else – basically, you left her control. So, no, neither you nor your husband owe her an apology. Besides, it was her who gave you the finger,” explained bamf1701.
“MIL is seriously creepy in the way she is infantilizing her son. You two are married and it’s totally insane and out of line for her to not allow you to share a bed. Very, very weird behavior on her part. You could apologize for calling her ‘ridiculous’ but I would make sure she knew I was specifically apologizing just for the phrasing,” advised xeevx.
“You certainly don’t owe her an apology. Your husband should text back that while he understands she was upset, neither of you have anything for which you need to apologize. You’re certainly entitled to an apology for her behavior, but realistically, you’re not going to get it, so I wouldn’t press that point. Assuming you want to keep contact with her, he can throw in something to smooth things over a bit such as, ‘We all learned that it doesn’t work for us to stay with you, but we’re looking forward to seeing you for dinner/brunch/whatever you all normally do.’ Then just ignore it,” suggested Kristanns1.
“Your reaction was far better than her rule called for. I get that its her house and her rule, but if she doesn’t know the two of you sleep together and you’ve been married for eight years AND have kids, then she’s delusional. Sure, she makes her own rules, but you’re also allowed to laugh at their stupidity. You even abided by them, which I salute you for. She’s the one that was acting childish, not you or your husband. Good luck with your house,” said Lurkingentropy.
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