This very weird story from u/fitandintoityum hits all of Reddit’s Bingo squares: weird sex fetish, criticizing women’s looks, and fat-shaming. The story was posted to r/AmItheA**hole, and though the OP was ruled NTA overall, it’s more complicated than that. She starts by saying she and her sister, both in their early twenties, were raised in the deep south, and their parents were both close to 400 pounds.
When the OP moved to Colorado, she started losing weight and became more focused on her looks. She’s now a personal trainer and says she got rhinoplasty to smooth a bump on her nose.
Her sister moved up with her and didn’t approve of the physical changes the OP went through. Her sister, she says, is about 300 lbs. The OP says she has tried to get her sister to lose weight, but her sister says that “life isn’t about looks.”
“Frankly I don’t care what she looks like I just want her to be healthy and confident,” the OP claims.
She goes on to say they’ve been having more and more conflicts over the matter of looks, citing a lot of instances where they were out at bars and she got more attention than her sister. Her sister has been upset about the possibility of not meeting anyone.
Then in January, the OP’s boyfriend cheated on her, and things got even more heated:
My sister told me that maybe he left me because I was too vain and high maintenance. I ignored her. Around the time of the break up she started dating a guy, and I was happy for her. However the guy gave off some weird vibes, the way he looked at my sister when she ate and making plans when my sister and I are supposed to do healthy activities. Since then my sister has gained a massive amount of weight and has become more hostile towards me. Her boyfriend buys her large quantities of unhealthy food and insists that she needs to eat more, he is weirdly touchy with her and often dismisses things she says. They dont talk and just watch tv, she hasnt met his friends or family yet also. She complains how he never posts about her on social media. About a month ago I had a friend over, this friend is interested in fetishes and they regonized my sister’s bf from a feeder site, I didnt want to bring it up with my sis because that didnt seem like it was my place but it worried me greatly.
Wow, so much to unpack there. If you don’t know what a feeder is, they’re a person who gets off sexually on feeding someone else, sometimes to make them gain weight. That seems like a weird thing to not talk to your sister about in my opinion. Anyway, the OP says she downloaded some dating apps to work on her own dating life, and her sister didn’t like all the matches she was getting. She called the OP “shallow.”
She then told me I might be more sucessful if I stop worrying so much about my looks and said that her boyfriend loves her for her personality not her looks and girls who look really good get men who want them just for their looks. This angered me to the point where I told my sis that her boyfriend is a feeder and he doesnt love her if he did he would put her health over his fetish and actually want to introduce her to the people in his life. My sister has refused to talk to me for a week so far and calls me a horrible person along with my parents joining in.
The post ends there, though the OP responded to a number of comments. In some of them, she admits that she does sometimes feel self-conscious about the changes she’s made to her appearance, like false eyelashes and lip injections. I don’t think that’s really the issue, I think the issue is throwing a huge bomb into her sister’s relationship in a moment of spite.
And that’s why most people said that everybody sucks in this story:
I hope both of these girls get some therapy and that secret feeder gets kicked out of their lives.
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