We’ve all been breadcrumbed (strung along) and ghosted (disappeared on) but have you been Valentighted? This new term basically means, ‘dumped before Valentine’s day,’ which is an act reserved for the cruelest among us.
According to the Metro UK writer Ellen Scott, who coined the term, ‘Valentighting’ is “the heartbreaking act of dumping someone right before Valentine’s Day, because you’re too tight to get them a gift, write a card, or make any kind of fuss.”
So, while it has to do with not wanting to spend money or make a fuss, it’s probably about something deeper. Let’s be honest, if you’re a) not interested in someone enough to make a gift work outside of the constraints of money or time, or b) you’re not intimate enough with someone to come up with a nice Valentine’s idea, was the relationship ever really salvageable?
Is ‘I don’t have enough money, time, etc, to celebrate with you’ really a lame-o euphemism for ‘commitment scares me’?
The whole thing was covered by Tamaron Hall show, who spoke to Amy Luong about being dumped before Valentine’s:
If you haven’t heard of “valentighting,” we’re hoping it’s because it’s never happened to you & hopefully will NEVER happen to you! Amy Luong joins us in Cyber Hall to tell us about her experience of being dumped right before Valentine’s Day, otherwise known as “valentighted.”❤ pic.twitter.com/0ewkh17d77
— Tamron Hall Show (@TamronHallShow) February 13, 2020
Amy was with her boyfriend for five years when he dumped her before Valentine’s Day because “his friends didn’t like her.” Later on, she learned that the pre-Valentine’s breakup was simply because he didn’t really like her.
Thank you @TamronHallShow for having me in cyber hall today.
“Valentighting” isn’t cool and unfortunate so don’t do it everyone!
— Amy Luong (@AmyDLuong) February 12, 2020
Because let’s be honest, it’s about more than the celebration:
• If it’s about the gifts at all, it’s less about penny-pinching and more about a person’s fear of having a gift be interpreted as an investment in the relationship, Seltzer said. • ❤ https://t.co/sGKuwqlz4G
— IG: ShawnaTalks ❤ (@ShawnaLeneeShow) February 12, 2020
But the term does sound sort of strange…
Whoa. After reading the heading, I thought this Valentighting dating trend was *totally* something else… Keeping said definition and starting a new tradition. Thank you.
— ᴛɪsʜ ᴊᴏᴇʟʟᴇ ʟɪᴅᴅᴇʟʟ (@TeeterJL) February 11, 2020
But hey, some people are all for it. Why waste all that time and money, after all?
Breaking up before Valentine’s Day is still better (and cheaper) than doing it after. If you don’t see a future with the person, why waste the time? You could also communicate and say not to exchange gifts if you just want to date casually. COMMUNICATE!https://t.co/r1EqltZtUY
— Amber Ferguson (@Ms_AmberDawn) February 12, 2020
A reminder that relationships take work. If you’re not willing, get outta here.
Seriously, ‘Valentighting’ is a word? Relationships need regular maintenance, and this is a really good occasion for it. https://t.co/sTS1ijKWYl
— Joe Broschak (@Prof_Broschak) February 12, 2020
Thankfully, the trend doesn’t seem too popular…
Have you ever been “valentighted”?
— Tamron Hall Show (@TamronHallShow) February 12, 2020
…Although Twitter is full of evidence that it happens, though. Eeek:
“My sister’s boyfriend dumped her TWICE on Valentine’s Day. The first year he dumped her the week before and then they got back together. The next year he dumped her the day before. They got back together the next week.
And now they’ve started arguing #BallantinesDay
— Treeky23 (@Treeky231) February 13, 2020
conveniently always get dumped before valentine’s day so if any girls would like to give me a single hug maybe hold me while i cry would rly love that
— claudia (@steroidsummers) February 13, 2020
lmao I always get dumped before Valentine’s Day broke ass bitches
— (@harleyswild) February 8, 2020
This Valentighted scenario turned out pretty great:
4 years ago my ex dumped me the day before valentine’s day so my mom took me to the bahamas and that’s a power move
— brit flair drip (@britnozet) February 13, 2020
But hey, you don’t have to be Valentighted to discover its perks:
Working on Valentine’s Day means I gotta rehearse my dramatic my-boyfriend-dumped-me-right-before-Valentine’s-day story that way my tables tip me extra
— allison (@AllisonLussier) February 13, 2020
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