“Valentighting” Is The New Pre-Valentine’s “Breakup Trend”

We’ve all been breadcrumbed (strung along) and ghosted (disappeared on) but have you been Valentighted? This new term basically means, ‘dumped before Valentine’s day,’ which is an act reserved for the cruelest among us.

According to the Metro UK writer Ellen Scott, who coined the term, ‘Valentighting’ is “the heartbreaking act of dumping someone right before Valentine’s Day, because you’re too tight to get them a gift, write a card, or make any kind of fuss.”

So, while it has to do with not wanting to spend money or make a fuss, it’s probably about something deeper.  Let’s be honest, if you’re a) not interested in someone enough to make a gift work outside of the constraints of money or time, or b) you’re not intimate enough with someone to come up with a nice Valentine’s idea, was the relationship ever really salvageable?

Is ‘I don’t have enough money, time, etc, to celebrate with you’ really a lame-o euphemism for ‘commitment scares me’?

The whole thing was covered by Tamaron Hall show, who spoke to Amy Luong about being dumped before Valentine’s:

Amy was with her boyfriend for five years when he dumped her before Valentine’s Day because “his friends didn’t like her.” Later on, she learned that the pre-Valentine’s breakup was simply because he didn’t really like her. 

Because let’s be honest, it’s about more than the celebration:

But the term does sound sort of strange…

But hey, some people are all for it. Why waste all that time and money, after all?

A reminder that relationships take work. If you’re not willing, get outta here.

Thankfully, the trend doesn’t seem too popular…

…Although Twitter is full of evidence that it happens, though. Eeek:

This Valentighted scenario turned out pretty great:

But hey, you don’t have to be Valentighted to discover its perks:

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