Let’s say you’re 22-years-old and you’re living in your college dorm. Your roommate is a total bro and he has loads of sex with random girls. In fact, “Josh” (or Topher or Brock or Brett or whatever his name is) gets so lucky he brings home girls two to four times a week (and these girls, you know, eat your food AND have sex super loudly). You’re sick of it, gosh darnit, so you tell your roommate to stop it—you’re trying to study, jeez!—but he says you’re slut-shaming him (lol).
Do you live and let live, because it’s college and he’s 22 and college isn’t a monastery, or do you concoct a special, this-will-ensure-you-stop-getting-laid vindication plan?
Reddit user u/Aitaa82627 asked the Reddit community over at AITA (Am I The A-Hole) whether or not he was in the wrong for,
“telling girls that [his roommate] probably has several STDs from sleeping around so much. I have no proof of this but since he slept with half the city it’s probably closer to the truth. I told the girls (specifically the last girl he slept with) that she should get tested for STDs.”
So what happened after he spread a vicious rumor about his roommate having STDs? “After that, we had no “visitors” and life was so much better.”
Here’s the deal, straight from the mouth of…sh*t-stirrers:
Yikes. So this is what humanity thinks of the OP (whose roommate thinks that he is, unsurprisingly, a sexually frustrated a-hole). First of all, way to make the stigma around STDs worse:
Spreading a rumor that someone has an STI is a horrible thing to do, period. STIs are super common, and they’re not a reflection of someone’s character or the consequence of a bad decision. You’ve just slut-shamed your roommate and perpetuated STI stigma. https://t.co/GQ7re0RdCN
— Ella Dawson (@brosandprose) March 10, 2020
Slander is not only petty AF, but it’s also NOT OK, OP.
Spreading a rumor that someone has an STI is a horrible thing to do, period. STIs are super common, and they’re not a reflection of someone’s character or the consequence of a bad decision. You’ve just slut-shamed your roommate and perpetuated STI stigma. https://t.co/GQ7re0RdCN
— Ella Dawson (@brosandprose) March 10, 2020
Update: They share a HOUSE. This isn’t one room, y’all.
Y’all share a whole house. If both he and his guests seem happy, make sure they stop eating your food and find somewhere quieter to study. It’s not a difficult task. pic.twitter.com/ceBOcmhw6p
— Jen (@such_hockey_wow) March 10, 2020
There were some diplomatic POVs, too. Because, let’s be honest, they all kind of suck.
ESH. The sexually active roommate is free to do that, but they should be respectful of the person they’re living with.
On the other hand, spreading a rumor that someone has an STD is NOT a “minor” rumor.
— Nick Piers (@NickPiers) March 10, 2020
Both A$$holes imo. Basic courtesy and respect for your roomies stuff and space is a huge issue for me. Letting strangers roam around the home unaccompanied. I mean damn. Op? Obvs also I note op never mentions their gender but we assume they’re a he?
— HisRoyalFlyness (@FlyIngenuity) March 10, 2020
ESH
OP may have legitimate grievances, but there was absolutely slut-shaming going on towards roommate and his visitors (and it looks like some general misogyny), and there is no excuse for spreading that rumor
Roommate should at least make an effort to protect OP’s food
— simon feasts upon brach’s easter hunt eggs (@SimonJadis) March 10, 2020
— » dr mrs the mothman » 🔌🔋 (@exfatalist) March 10, 2020
“I made up a false health diagnosis for my roommate to fear monger people, AITA?” pic.twitter.com/uW2TfnB6ZQ
— 🗽 Katelyn 🐰 (@katelynanne) March 10, 2020
“I made up a false health diagnosis for my roommate to fear monger people, AITA?” pic.twitter.com/uW2TfnB6ZQ
— 🗽 Katelyn 🐰 (@katelynanne) March 10, 2020
Honestly, this sums it up:
the virgin OP vs the Chad roommate
— pro bowl mvp (@rynej__) March 10, 2020
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