If there’s one thing school doesn’t prepare you for, it’s having a moment of accidental internet fame, and then realizing all the baggage that comes with it.
David Woodland is a dad who was pretty surprised when a casual tweet went viral and put a spotlight on his parenting techniques.
Woodland didn’t write anything scary or abusive or weird, but as most moms discover much sooner, it’s pretty easy to attract criticism about how you care for your kids when you share that info publicly.
The tweet Woodland sent simply says, “We pay my oldest $1 every time he reads a book. We’re talking 160-page chapter books. I’m out $120 this year and he thinks he’s ripping me off. Best investment ever.”
We pay my oldest $1 every time he reads a book. We’re talking 160 page chapter books. 😂
I’m out $120 this year and he thinks he’s ripping me off. Best investment ever.
— David Woodland (@DavidSven) July 17, 2020
Not being an armchair child psychologist, I didn’t think there was anything particularly offensive about it. Just a corny dad tweet which is between Woodland and his son when his son is old enough for a Twitter account.
He added that his son is “a great kid and thrives in academics and sports” and said, “Don’t worry about my kid! He will be okay!”
Didn’t realize “encouraging reading” could be such a controversial topic, so I’ll end on this:
He’s a great kid and thrives in academics and sports. More importantly, he is a loving older brother/friend/son.
I am proud to be his dad. Don’t worry about my kid! He will be okay!
— David Woodland (@DavidSven) July 18, 2020
Is it a good system? Some people seemed to think it was totally brilliant and something Pizza Hut already did:
No, but I’m old enough to remember Taco Bell giving away Golden State Warriors tickets with a chalupa meal.
— David Woodland (@DavidSven) July 17, 2020
Our parents awarded us $10 for every A ($9 for A-, $8 for B+…) on our report cards. This was tracked in our “checkbook” & every year the value of an A appreciated by $2
Loved beating my lil bro so much it became a habit…
He’s a UCLA grad. I’m a Harvard grad.
My parents = pic.twitter.com/mJFKGCO1kL
— BOLD MARKETS❗️ (@BoldMarkets) July 17, 2020
Loved the summer reading program at the library. Lots of local restaurants n toy stores participated. Every 10 books complete w/ book report for each, got you a small cone from McD’s, $1 gift certificate to toy store, etc. Made me mad that I had to share with sis that didn’t read
— Carmen San Diego 👩💻🐡🐙 (@CarmenSD11235) July 17, 2020
Wow if you put it that way, I can’t even measure the long term impact of 120 books on a young reader.
— David Woodland (@DavidSven) July 18, 2020
But there are a whole bunch of people who thought Woodland was teaching his kid to only read when he has external motivation to do so, and as soon as he stops getting money for reading, he’ll stop reading entirely:
You’ll be out a lot more for his therapy.
I’ve got 4 kids (15 through 4, the older 3 doing amazing in school etc. etc.) and this is a horrible idea that teaches really bad incentives.
Hope this doesn’t backfire and bite you guys in the behind.
— Jake REI (@jkostecki_rei) July 18, 2020
And when hes not going to get paid for reading anymore, hes not going to love reading books anymore. Extrinsic motivation like that doesnt create a real joy and will of learning.
— Tragic Johnson (@skrxxet) July 18, 2020
How do you explain to him that he has to do chores and volunteer and do dozens of other basic life duties without payment?
— Jake REI (@jkostecki_rei) July 18, 2020
I just heard an NPR podcast today that talked about the idea of paying kids to do things they should be doing anyway. It is a topic that’s been studied, basically it removes the motivation to do the task. So once you stop paying them, they won’t do it anymore.
— Theresa Daudier (@TDaudier) July 18, 2020
Artificial incentives. This kills the joy of learning. Makes it transactional. Please try to teach the joy of learning instead ( intrinsic )
— Bruno Larvol (@brunolarvol) July 18, 2020
There were a few professionals who disagreed with the other professionals on that:
I’m a clinical child psychologist and this is a great tactic. The best thing for reading is reading, and once you’re used to reading, it becomes a habit. Don’t worry about intrinsic motivation – books are their own motivators. Anyone who says otherwise doesn’t understand learning
— Dr.Koslowitz_ParentingPsychology (@KoslowitzDr) July 19, 2020
Have the people hating on this reward method never heard of AR points?? I‘d only read as a kid to have a pizza party. Still remember the books I read though, & still a fast reader bc of it. Reading in college was easier bc of this. & I still did it for a reward—a good grade.
— Jenny G. (@iJenniferGarcia) July 18, 2020
Woodland was interviewed by Bored Panda and he told them he was pretty surprised by the response.
“I don’t think anyone expects to go viral,” he said. “Been tweeting for a decade and I’d say I have had much better tweets that got 5 likes.”
He also wanted everyone to know the payment plan is actually his wife’s idea, so if you think it’s good congratulate her and if you think it’s bad…also her fault. He also said he understood the negative perspective on their system.
“Some think that if you reward some tasks, those tasks become chores that a kid will never be able to enjoy,” said Woodland. “It’s a fair take. In the instance of my son, I don’t worry about his pleasure of reading. He is bright and his vocabulary is exploding. He sometimes shocks me with how smart and insightful he is. He has even mentioned we don’t have to pay him anymore, but we do anyway because it’s just a dollar. He doesn’t get an allowance, so outside of chores, this is possibly the only other way he can earn money on his own as an 8-year-old. He likes to save his money and is proud of the pile of money he has accumulated.”
He also says he’s fine paying his son a dollar per book for the rest of his life if he wants and if that’s all it takes to get him to read. Seems like a fair price.
And for what it’s worth, I agree that for some things, external financial motivation might be a bad idea. In this case, it seems like people are assuming a child won’t discover any other benefits from reading except that dollar bill. Maybe those people should pick up a book for themselves. There’s some great stuff in there you can’t find on Twitter.
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