Aimeé
The subreddit r/AmItheA**hole is where people go to figure out if they’ve been an a**hole in a situation. It’s also a place where some people go for validation over a situation where they are so clearly in the right that they basically just want a chorus of approval. This is basically one of those stories because the poster, u/FreyaAlinaCeleste, is so obviously correct to think she is not being a jerk and her boyfriend is, she mostly just needs support to throw the whole boy away.
The OP is 20, her boyfriend is 21, and it sounds like they have a pretty crappy relationship. She writes that on a day she was in a good mood, she asked him to go to something with her and he rejected it for being “unimportant.” She says he had an interview that afternoon that she set up for him (what??), but he was supposed to come by afterward, around 5:40. A few hours before, this happened:
I was having a shower and, whilst I was shaving, I had a particularly big seizure. I cut up my arm and my leg, I fractured my foot, I cracked the bath, and brought the entire ceiling down. I awoke to the ungodly crash beneath me, about 40 minutes after I remember going in to the shower. I went to my room, called an ambulance, and text my boyfriend.
My boyfriend text back immediately, so he knew what had happened, and I text him immediately after: he never bothered to respond.
I spent an hour with the paramedics until my sister arrived to look after me. It’s worth noting my sister lives an hour’s drive away whereas you can get to my boyfriend’s house in less than five minutes.
I took a nap and woke up to a load of discord notifications from the GC and it turns out whilst I was having the longest seizure of my life, my boyfriend was just f—king about playing a stupid boat game. He plays games every day, normally it gets a bit annoying but I don’t really care, do what makes you happy. HOWEVER, given the circumstances I am incredibly upset and hurt that he chose to play a stupid boat game over even checking that I was alright (until his sister told him off).
I sent him a message going off at him because I don’t think that was okay to do when you claim to love someone, but I KNOW that when he wakes up and/or reads it he’ll just be like WeLl I sAiD iD pLaY wItH tHeM and YoUrE oVeRrEaCtInG, so before he has the chance to make me feel worse than I already do, I’m here to triple check that I’m not the arsehole here.
You gotta triple check on that? Really? Schools need to start teaching basic human decency in relationships because this is cause to end one.
OP also shared pics of her messed up ankle and the trashed house as proof for the skeptics in the comments:
It seems like a pretty open and shut case: the OP is not the a**hole, but she is a dummy if she keeps sticking with this guy. She did update with an edit that implies they’re still together:
ETA: As predicted, he’s told me that as I’m going to “keep sh—tting on him” (translates to telling him he’s upset me and it’s not okay) he’s going to ignore me and go back to bed 🙃
He’s still in your bed? Honey, no! The story made its way over to Twitter, too, and people met it with disbelief:
While it lasts pic.twitter.com/U6ksSgPK3r
— Am I the Asshole? (@AITA_reddit) January 17, 2020
Many woman are socialized to believe that their primary job is to find and keep a man and that if they fail the only cause possible is that they were deficient in some way. Whole communities would not even disagree with that statement or think it sounded bad if presented with it.
— One Angry Beaver (@misusmiawallace) January 17, 2020
I asked my wife this same question, we have two daughters so I wanted to know.
She said it’s most likely insecurity cause they are constantly invalidated just for being women Their thoughts are not important to these men and they are told that constantly, it’s hrd to feel right
— Mr Fox (@MattPenneymd) January 17, 2020
I was even more right than I expected. He’s not only a horrible bf but a horrible person in general. If ANYONE, much less my gf, texted me saying that happened I’d stop what I was doing and try to help them. She’s a gd Saint for even continuing to talk to him bc reciprocity.
— Je suis Fatty-Gay (@TimeIsNotGiven) January 17, 2020
Who wants to put money on him not actually going to the interview either bEcAuSe mUh bOaTs1!1!
— Masamoony (@Masamoony) January 17, 2020
— » dr mrs the mothman » 🔌🔋 (@exfatalist) January 17, 2020
“AITA for continuing to play my game after my girlfriend had a massive seizure, cut herself up and caused the ceiling to collapse? I mean, her sister went to take care of her after the EMTs left. It’s not like I could do anything. Now she won’t stop nagging me about it.”
— The Lamityville Horror: Awake at 5AM!! (@AnxiousPenman) January 17, 2020
“Hi my boyfriend is a semisentient amalgamation of red flags but I’m concerned that I might be inconveniencing him by existing” is a strong AITA theme.
— Conrad C-B, Second Foundation (@carpethefish) January 17, 2020
I have epilepsy. 95% of people, if I text them saying I’ve had a seizure and need something, will drop just about anything to be there. My ex, though, was always saying, “Now’s not a good time for me babe”
ME NEITHER ASSHOLE
Make this guy your ex, OP. It feels so much better.
— KingMe (@KingMe50749634) January 17, 2020
So glad he’s your ex.
— HelenHuntingdon (@HelenHuntingdon) January 17, 2020
If he doesn’t show up for your seizures, he’s not your boyfriend. He’s a life-stealing succubus. Case closed.
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