People get married for all sorts of reasons, including duress, but true love is what most people hope for. The only problem is, how do you know it’s real? In this old r/AskReddit thread unearthed by Buzzfeed and started by Redditor u/TheLastVyzzor, lots of people shared when they “knew” in response to the question, “Husbands of Reddit, what was your ‘I’m so gonna marry this girl’ moment?”
The answers are a mixture of sweet and absurd, proving that love really does strike at the oddest times. When you know, you know, even if the reason you know is ridiculous.
1. Hope you tipped her?
We had been on a few dates and it was my birthday. She asked what I wanted for my birthday. I sarcastically suggested a 12 pack of beer, a box of condoms and her in that tennis skirt I saw her in on Facebook.
Sure enough, she showed up to my apartment with a 12 pack, condoms and wearing that tennis skirt. I had dated a lot of high maintenance girls who weren’t all the comfortable with themselves in a lot of ways. I knew from this she was way different.
I would come to find out she was a goddess in a lot of other ways too. But seeing her in the door way looking every bit the dream for my birthday made me know she was definitely a keeper. —juicethebrick
She went to ‘hop’ on the bed, miscalculated how springy it was, bounced off and got stuck between the bed and the bedside table. Upside-down, legs flailing in the air. She couldn’t free herself, and I was too incapacitated with laughter to help her for a good 5 minutes. —Merlord
We had only been dating for three months, so still some awkwardness here and there. I was working an outrageous amount, and I got phone call that one of my very good friends had just died in a car accident. I don’t really remember walking there, but instead of my apartment, I ended up at hers. She opened the door to her new boyfriend half-ugly-sobbing.
Instead of being (rightly) weirded out, she listened and cried with me for a couple hours.
The friend who died was the one who had encouraged me (for like six months) to ask my now-wife out. My friend never knew the impact she had.
My wife and I have been married for eight years now. —d_b_cooper
She was spending the night at my place and woke up about 3 am in severe discomfort. Over an hour she started to hurt worse so I took her to the ER.
At the ER, she was screaming in pain but they wouldn’t give her any pain meds without first doing a pregnancy test. Of course she went to the bathroom while I was registering her, so she didn’t have anything to give.
It was while she was in the room in the ER, miserable in pain and waiting for the pain meds to kick in that I realized I really cared for her and wanted to make our relationship more permanent.
It turned out that she was having a kidney stone and not an alien chest-burster. She struggled with that problem for years until we find the cause.
Bonus: I met her mother for the first time that morning. On one hand I hate the circumstances, but on the other I’m glad I was able to show I could take care of her daughter. —G3NOM3
5. The long ride.
She traveled 2 hours by bus and train to see me on my half an hour lunch break. We’re due to be married in 3 weeks. —Seriousdolla
Mine was when I imagined what it would be like to not have my then-girlfriend around. It was an eye opener. I suddenly realized how precious she had become to me. It made me see how much I loved her, and how great we worked together. We’ve been married almost 8 years and are going strong! —robbzilla
Lost my car in a parking garage after I bungled the night by forgetting my wallet on a fairly expensive Italian dinner date. I was embarrased and mortified.
I just wanted to cut my losses and get home. I was really trying to impress her and literally anything that could go wrong did. To cap the night off I forgot where I parked my car because I was flustered from everything that had gone wrong.
After 20 minutes or so of me running around this parking garage, going level to level, running hand in hand. I could feel her glare and and annoyment on the back of my neck. It was growing. I could feel her quietly thinking “well, this was the worst date I’ve ever been on.”
The humiliation finally overcame me and I stopped and turned around. Maybe to appologize profusely, I don’t know, still don’t know. I was preparing myself for that look on her face. She was smiling. She started to laugh. Not at me. But with me, ..without me. Almost inviting me to laugh with her about this poor bastard’s luck. A large wave of relief washed over the dreadful evening.
We stood there on level 2 of the Newport on the Levee parking garage just laughing. I knew at that precise moment that I wanted to marry her. 6 years later, we are married with two kids.
When we gave our vows, we both unknowingly had written of that exact night in Newport and that exact moment. I think perhaps for me, I had fallen in love before, but with her.. I never wanted to fall in love again. —gregkiel
She asked if I would move to Boise, Idaho with her, and I thought, I’d move to Hell to be with her. —Sun_Of_Dorne
Being with her was (and has been, going on 20 years in 2018,) effortless. There was no drama, no having to explain my jokes, my references. She was as nerdy as I was and am. It just occurred to me that we should marry. So, I started saying in conversation “When we get married…”
Almost 20 years later we’ve been married almost 18 years. We’re still very passionately in love, and it just keeps getting better. —dramboxf
When I was 16, an insanely hot girl messaged me on Myspace (yeah, I know) because we had mutual friends and she thought I was cute. We hit it off, started dating, and a few months later I left her in Texas to go on a trip with my family to see my grandparents in Indiana.
It was the first time we’d been apart for more than a day or two since we’d been together, and the separation was brutal for a pair of teenage love birds. We spent almost every night of that trip talking on the phone until 3 or 4am, laughing, telling each other secrets and sharing our hopes and fears for the future.
She was brilliant – talking to her simultaneously felt like I was going on a big adventure and I’d found my way home all at the same time. That was the first time I’d ever felt like every minute spent away from her was a complete waste of time, and that feeling never really went away. We’ve been together 12 years now, and just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary.
Sometimes you get it right on the first try, folks. —Serial_Doubter
11. What a cool boss, I guess? Most employers frown on texting at work.
Her boss messaged me to tell me she knew when my (at time girlfriend) was texting me, opposed to anyone else, because she would be smiling. Then her mother told me the same thing a few days later 🙂 —heyo_throw_awayo
She was driving us back from a great camping trip with friends. My mind was wandering and I thought, “You know, I wish I could do rad shit like this with her forever.” Then I thought, “That sounds like a marriage… HEY!”
I looked over at her, she glanced at me and smiled back. I then put together a plan; I ask her to live with me in 6 months when her lease is up, after a year if shit is still good I’ll ask her to marry me. I did exactly that. We’ve been married 4 years and have an 8 month old. —Ganglebot
I don’t remember a moment. We were childhood friends, and knew each other really well. We started dating after high school, but after a year I moved away for two years. We wrote each other letters every week, keeping them short and friendly. Something I won’t mind sharing with my kids in the future.
When I moved back to the area I wanted to do a big road trip to see my family but didn’t want to do it alone. She ended up being the only person available and with less than 24 hour notice was ready to hit the road. It was a blast of a trip, and everyone kept asking when we were going to get married. We hadn’t actually started actively dating again, and things were pretty platonic at that point, so we just shrugged. After the road trip we spent a massive amount of time together and it just made sense to propose to someone that was and is so special to me. Three months later I proposed. —CalebTGordan
First road trip together. We stoped for food and I ordered multiple cheeseburgers. I was driving and without being asked she unwrapped and handed me my burger. As soon as one was done she had another one ready. I realized then that some people are genuinely considerate and kind. Also the first time she called someone a cuntbag —TheIcon42
We were playing Trivial Pursuit with friends, and were in a team together. The question we got was “Who was the 26th President of the United States?” I figured it was my chance to impress her by counting off all the Presidents in order to count to to 26, so I started. She jumped right in with me, and got up to Teddy Roosevelt faster than I did.
It was the perfect realization that her nerdiness and personality matched up perfectly with my own. When we got married, we had a picture of Teddy Roosevelt on our table at the reception. —thehonestyfish
My girls a real looker and i know she way out of my league. Some years back some other girl turned around to her on a night out and said ” What are you doing with him? ” She responded ” I love him.” Gettin Wifed!!! —PeppaPigKilla
I was working on commercial fishing vessels at the time and couldn’t watch the NHL playoffs so she watched the games and texted me updates a couple times a night about who scored and won etc. She learned the rules of hockey for me. That was the moment…and she got pregnant. —coastalfisher
As told to me by my husband…We hadn’t been dating for very long and he had gotten sick, so I raided the pantry and brought him every sort of sick food imaginable: ramen, chicken soup, saltine crackers, gatorade. The whole works. Apparently no girlfriend had ever done that for him before and he realized that we were legit.
Little did he know that I had ulterior motives and was hoping I’d get some D for being a nice girlfriend, but alas, he was too sick. We did cuddle and watch movies though, so that was nice. —HootyPuff
Sometimes when you know, you just know. Halloween one year, we went to a fall festival and it turned out to be pretty lame so we came home to just chill and watch Netflix. We settled into the couch and she just leaned on me and grabbed my arm. In that moment I thought “yea, I could see myself with her for the rest of my life.”
We got married a bit over a month ago. —Misdirected_Colors
1st year of uni. I was one of the few with a PC (early 00s), we’d been together maybe 3 months and I had a long day of lectures, tutorials etc. She asked me if she could use my PC for a bit before I left. Of course. I returned at 7pm, she’d been there all day gaming. All day. As if this wasn’t enough, she’d played the Sims the whole time and had created versions of me and her married, house, career etc. She was a little embarrassed, I thought it was adorable.
Been together for 13yrs, married for 4. We have a PC each now and we’re currently hooked on PUBG Duo. Still loads to look forward to. —praetorian_
We’re both from religious, sheltered backgrounds. We went to neighboring religious schools when we met. She turned herself in to her school board for drinking on spring break.
One night I had too much to drink while she was working. By the time she came to visit I was Pukey Brewster. She spent the night cleaning up, rubbing my back and hair, and singing, “I’m Gonna Love You Forever.” I don’t care for country music, but the non-judgemental nurturing with the voice of an angel was something I could no longer do without.
We now have 4 kids and 13+ years or marital bliss. Love her! —porkstar77
this will probably get buried since I’m late to the party… but was dating my then gf for about 3 months. My parents are immigrants and worked minimal wage jobs, her parents are well off and own their own business. I was ashamed to tell her what my dad did so when she asked about my parents, I kinda dodged that question. She knew what I was doing and said “you should never be ashamed of your parents, they’ve worked so hard to get you where you are; I’m so proud of them”. I couldn’t help but break down, she was right. I knew right there and then that I would marry her. Sounds kinda small but to me, it defined her character. No regrets at all. —wolfpack1986
Driving around on one of our first dates. Theres a black bag in the middle of the road with something inside of it. She tells me to be careful. I say “Oh, it’s probably..” and at the same time we both said “dead baby”. I knew she was the one. —sookia
I was 17, she was 18. We worked at the local McDonalds. She was a cutie, and every guy in the joint wanted her, but she wasn’t interested. I offered to pretend like we were dating to make everyone else back off, and we ended up really dating.
Our first kiss was on June 24, 1984 and by July 4, 1984 I knew that I loved her. We’re now 50 and 51 and we’ve been together for 33 years, married for 31 years. —93WhiteStrat
This first time she got me to orgasm, in Borat accent she said “high five vanilla face.” That’s when I knew —ForeseenHippo
When she said “it’s been 8years, if you don’t marry me I’m leaving”. Oh ok. Been 20 years now 😃 —DeusExPir8Pete
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