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Mom Asks If She’s Wrong To Kick Her Pregnant Teen Daughter Out Before The Baby Is Born

A mom took to Reddit’s r/Am I The Asshole subreddit to see if other people agree with her decision to kick out her pregnant 17-year-old daughter before the baby arrives.

In a post, the mom (user notinmyhouse123) writes:

“My 17 yo daughter (youngest and we had her late) is 7 weeks pregnant (she will be 18 by the time she gives birth) She is not in a relationship with the father. He reeaallyyy, I can’t stress this enough, does not want a baby. I honestly don’t even think he’ll show up for the birth or anything.”

That already sounds like a difficult situation. Let’s see how this unfolds.

“She has decided to continue with the pregnancy against all advice from practically every adult in her life. After she insisted on not only continuing with the pregnancy but raising the baby I asked her how she is going to manage that? This was the jist of the convo:

Her: I’ll get a job.
Me: who’s going to watch baby while you’re at work?
Her: I thought you and dad could.
Me: absolutely not, I’m not raising another baby.”

OK, the daughter was headed in the right direction. However, we can’t be mad at the mom, who was expected (without a prior conversation) to take care of the child.

The mom continues with her side of the story.

“Pretty much a back and forth for a bit that lead me to believe that if she has this baby in this house, I’m practically going to be its mother. I’m very recently retired and my husband is retiring in exactly 11 months (there’s a countdown) and this is not how I want to spend my retirement years. It’s not fair to us. So I told her that she has until baby is born to find a place to live. Husband has always been wrapped around her finger (which normally is endearing, I love how much he loves our children) so he is not fully on board with that but I feel like we need to be united on this. I just want to know if I’m in the wrong here.”

After reading through the post, we can see both sides. Yes, the mom has the power to say no. But, we can see how it can be difficult for the daughter to not have her parents’ support during a challenging time.

Let’s see what other Reddit users had to say.

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We have to say, that’s a really great answer with some nice ol’ advice nuggets. Many other users came to the mother’s defense.

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Another user pointed out that if the daughter wants to go on government assistance, she will have to move out of her parents’ house.

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A very pragmatic Reddit user pointed out that nobody is the asshole in this situation, and it’s all about the perspective of each person involved.

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So, what do you think? The asshole or not the asshole?

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