Man Asks If He's Wrong To Get Mad At GF For Getting Her Period In A White Dress He Paid For

Every time there’s a story posted to Reddit about an argument between a man and a woman over menstruation I think about how much relationship stuff would be solved by better health education in schools. The number of cis men who don’t understand how periods function is appalling. These are all real, false things I have read men believe: that periods can be stopped or started at will, that they’re like peeing, that it feels sexually satisfying to put in a tampon, that a vegan diet will stop a period, because menstruation is evidence of an “unclean” diet.

No, no, no, no. No.

What exactly the man who wrote this post believes about periods isn’t entirely clear, but he definitely doesn’t know how they really work. Posting under the throwaway account u/PeriodStainAITA, he asked, “AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for making me lie to my friends because she got her period?”

He says he’s been with his girlfriend for two years and she has “always been very neat, tidy, and very polished.”

“She cares about her appearance, and I appreciate that,” he writes. “So this situation makes no sense to me.”

Spoiler alert: It won’t make sense to anyone else either. I usually edit these as much as possible, but I think his entire post is so dripping with contempt and weird jibes at his GF it just has to be read in full:

We were at a very fancy event with a few of my friends (social distancing rules, every one wore masks etc.) My girlfriend was wearing a beautiful white dress, which I recently bought for her. The dress was very expensive. We were all having a good time.

However, at one point, she excused herself to go the bathroom, and then I didn’t see her again until she sent me a text from the car asking if we could go home.

Obviously I’m slightly annoyed because I didn’t want to leave so soon. When I reached the car and asked why she wanted to go home, she told me that she got her period unexpectedly. I asked why she didn’t bring extra tampons or pads (or use those tracking apps) she tried to defend herself by saying that she did everything she could, and that she had a period stain, and didn’t want to stay because of the stain.

She asked me to lie to my friends, and tell them that she was feeling “unwell” so that she could go home. She had a man’s jacket (a mutual friend of ours) covering her legs (and the nasty stain) and pleaded with me to take her home so she could shower and unwind.

I took her home and lied to my friends. When she was getting out of the car, the stain was very noticeable, it was very big and essentially ruined an expensive dress which I bought. She also made me purposefully lie because she wasn’t prepared enough, and made me miss an event with my friends. Needless to say, I was extremely pissed.

She said I was not being considerate and went to go lie down because she had a “headache” (she wanted to lie down after she took a shower)

She woke up and I haven’t spoken to her properly until she apologizes, and gives back the friends jacket. I don’t think I’m an AH, but when I told my friend (the same friend who gave her a jacket) he told me that I was the AH, and my GF kind of agreed. AITA?

Redditor u/geegeepark broke down this post point-by-point, starting with the very basic fact that sometimes periods come unexpectedly. It just happens.

And based on how he describes his GF, she certainly didn’t carelessly throw on her white dress and decide to bleed through it in front of all her friends. It was UNEXPECTED.

That list about covers it, including the fact that he didn’t have to “lie” to his friends for her. She probably wasn’t feeling well, and I doubt he would have appreciated her announcing what had happened.

My guess is he through in the forced lie accusation to make himself seem even more like a victim of his girlfriend’s unexpected bleeding.

But here are a bunch more people eloquently calling him the a**hole.

The OP signed on eventually to add this edit:

EDIT: I guess I’m the AH. I logged out of this account about an hour after posting because the response was terrible, and then came back to a TON of responses calling me the AH.

After my girlfriend came home from returning the jacket, she apologized for ruining the dress and I apologized for being a dumb—ss and not understanding the whole ‘period’ thing. She forgave me, then we went out for ice cream and rewatched her favorite movie. That’s the end of the story.

I guess…Reddit worked? Though she still apologized to him for no reason, which absolutely sucks. I hope she signs on to Reddit one of these days with the story so everyone can tell her she can do much, much better.

Man Asks If He’s Wrong To Get Mad At GF For Getting Her Period In A White Dress He Paid For